One of my clients had a MAJOR breakthrough last night.

He’s on the Erika Awakening Holistic Belief Reprogramming plus Tough Love plan :)

Until recently, he was a community statistic.  A guy who has tried what’s being offered in the community but has not seen any appreciable improvement in his results.

DJ Fuji often mentions in his talks that 95% of guys in the PUA community never get better.

Do you know why that is?

They are not addressing the real issues.

The reason my client has not previously been getting results has nothing to do with his INTELLECTUAL KNOWLEDGE  of pickup.

It has to do with the FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS that he has been avoiding his whole life.

My client intellectually understands all the techniques that are being taught.  But like a very high percentage of guys in the community, he has not been able to implement them.  He has a lot of very “rational” sounding reasons why he “can’t” implement them, but they can all be boiled down to one word:  FEAR.

And at the end of the day, the fear is not of women, or of failing, or of anything else you might think.  He has FEAR of feeling his own feelings.  Because those feelings are UNCOMFORTABLE.

In order to get results, he has to face up to loads of anger, shame, guilt, and grief (the Shadow Self), and get those feelings OUT of his vibration.   Otherwise, women can feel that crap from miles away and will NOT be attracted.

Like many of us, my client had a not-so-fun childhood.  He learned from a bunch of experiences that he was socially “not good enough.”  He also learned that being in an intimate space with a woman was a recipe for PAIN and CRITICISM.

Because of those experiences, he has a habit of AVOIDING any situation that would re-trigger those painful feelings.

The subconscious mind is always ten steps ahead of the conscious mind.  If, based on experiences from the past, the subconscious mind associates intimacy or women or talking to strangers with PAIN, it will commit all kinds of shenanigans to avoid that pain in the future.

Unfortunately, the result is that many people end up living, essentially,  IN A BOX.  Their comfort zone gets smaller and smaller, and they intellectually rationalize why they “can’t” do what other people do easily, such as approaching women or public speaking or any number of other activities that have simply become FAR TOO TERRIFYING even to attempt.

How can learning a bunch of techniques ever help a guy overcome that much subconscious FEAR?  Most guys are not even in touch with their fear, but the fear will sabotage them no matter how many techniques they learn, and no matter what they try to do.

What is the answer?

YOU MUST STOP AVOIDING THE FEELINGS.

When the feelings are faced directly, especially with the help of powerful tools such as Holistic Belief Reprogramming, the FEAR will dissolve.

When the fear is avoided, it GROWS stronger.  It leads to increasingly miserable outcomes.

Yet … in the community, virtually NOBODY has a system that helps guys erase their fear AT ITS ROOT in the subconscious mind.

Except me.  Holistic Belief Reprogramming will erase the fear.

And then guys don’t need pickup techniques anymore.  Once they have tuned into their intuition and become FEARLESS, the right thing to do and say in EVERY SITUATION will simply come to them, without having to think about it.

It’s the best kept secret in pickup, because I am the ONLY person offering it.

With me standing by your side, we will directly face every fear that you have, apply HBR, and watch the fear dissolve.

Your results will be FAR faster than any “outer game” method can achieve on its own.

I’m really thrilled for my client.  He got a result last night that he has NEVER been able to get before.  I give him a lot of credit for taking a big step out of his comfort zone despite his FEARS.

And guess what happened when he got his new result?  Did he feel all good feelings?  NO.  Along with the feelings of accomplishment came to the surface a lot of very UNCOMFORTABLE feelings.

So I said to him this morning, “Yep, see, that’s why you haven’t been getting the results you say you want.  Those feelings you are feeling right now are EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING.”

Fortunately, he has me by his side to help him dissolve every negative feeling that arises.  We simply keep peeling off layers of the emotional onion.  We knock fears down, one domino at a time.  One limiting belief at a time.  And as we do that, he will continue to see RESULTS THAT NO OTHER SYSTEM ON THE MARKET CAN GET FOR YOU.

Don’t be a community statistic.  Sign up for my free 7-day video course today.

Learn how to REDESIGN YOUR REALITY exactly the way you want it to be :)

Sexual Healing Week – EFT Special

by Erika Awakening on December 6, 2009

The theme of my sessions with clients this week has been sexual healing. I’m taking this as a sign from the Universe.

Thus, in the holiday spirit, I am dedicating this week to liberating all of us from any remaining sexual guilt or shame that we may be carrying around. I am offering a one hour EFT session at a discounted rate of $95 (it’s $115 if you’d like a custom audio recording that you can tap along to later for added benefits).

Issues that you might want to release in this session would be things like the following:
- I don’t feel comfortable with my sexuality;
- I don’t feel comfortable with women’s (or men’s) sexuality;
- I’m troubled by the mixed messages I’ve received all my life about sex;
- I don’t feel as free to express myself sexually as I would like;
- I have hangups in particular areas that I would like to be liberated from;
- I feel guilty about my sexual desires;
- I don’t feel comfortable talking to people about my sexuality;
- Etc.

We will release fears, guilt, shame, doubts, and inner conflicts about your sexuality and reclaim your birthright as a sexual, creative being.

Please note: if you are wanting to address a serious sexual trauma event, I do have experience clearing those. However, a one hour session is not the place to do that. Please email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com, and we will create a custom package for you to release the old trauma. I want to be able to give you the full support you will need to do this.

For everyone else, please sign up using the link below (offers expires on Friday, Dec. 11 at 5:00 pm Pacific time), so please sign up now.

To read more about my compassionate coaching, go here. To read testimonials from my happy clients, go here.

Special EFT options

Erika’s Financial Aid Program – Tap for Cash

December 1, 2009

Hey everyone,
I’ve had a number of people who are interested in working with me and who say “I’m broke, and I can’t afford coaching with you. What can I do?”
I do not offer free coaching for many reasons, not the least of which is out of respect for myself, my limited time, and my [...]

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A letter for liberating relationships, reprised

November 30, 2009

This is a rewrite of an article I posted over a year ago now. Our Word is very powerful, so I decided it was important to make some clarifications:
What kills relationships?
Guilt. Unspoken assumptions, expectations, and judgments. Fear. Stifling feelings. Resentment.
What brings relationships back to life?
Scary honesty. Empathy. [...]

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Embracing the Shadow self as a key to dating success (and other ways to throw out conventional wisdom)

November 27, 2009

I just landed in Tahoe to spend a few days with my dad. It’s snowing here and very beautiful, as always.
My love of life has returned, and I give a lot of credit to the Shadow method. Whenever we feel critical or judgmental of what somebody else is doing or has [...]

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Happy Forgiveness-giving Day

November 26, 2009

I invite you to join me in dedicating this Thanksgiving to forgiving ourselves and everyone in our lives. I am very grateful today for the healing modalities that were taught to me over the past few years, which allow grievances to evaporate so that everything feels fresh and new again.
Today I feel appreciation for [...]

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Meditation, EFT, and other ways to clear static out of our vibe

October 15, 2009

One of my readers, we’ll call him Fraser, sent me this question:
hey, I remember you often talk in your blog posts about people who have “cleared the static out of their vibe”. what exactly do you mean by this, and what other methods are there to achieve this, aside from meditation and EFT?
speaking of meditation, [...]

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See You at the 21 Convention this Weekend …

July 20, 2009

It’s going to be a lot of fun.
Here’s the link.
I even went shopping and got some new sexy little things to wear …
See you all soon.

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Harem Management Revisited … My Secret Fantasy Riff

July 16, 2009

Just in from a manicure and pedicure, and off soon with Player Girl, but in the meantime …
A little while back, when I was not feeling nearly so placid as I feel today, I wrote a not-so-complimentary article about harem management.
I was also recently in a heated exchange with a guy who happens to be [...]

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The Last Hurrah? It’s High Time for a LR

July 15, 2009

There are some developments that I’m not ready to share yet, but in the meantime … I’m kinda riffing out loud here, so bear with me please.
A little while back, Rori gave me some advice. She said, more or less, if you’re going to get married, the time to play around sexually is now [...]

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