April 2009

Erika’s 30-Day Positivity Challenge

April 29, 2009

Yes, after taking a brief walk on the dark side, and noticing how much crappier it feels to focus even mildly on people’s shortcomings and faults, I am going to focus on cleaning up my own yard rather than wondering why my neighbors haven’t mowed their lawns or trimmed their hedges in months This is [...]

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The army of the powerless — dedicated with love to all the haters :-)

April 28, 2009

I am just back from an acupuncture session, and wow did that jumpstart my vibe! I am feeling a zillion times better thank you very much. Well, it’s been a while since we had A Course in Miracles moment, but clearly it’s time for some healing in this community. We’ve got a lot of gurus [...]

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What to do when there’s a conflict between what he wants and what she wants

April 28, 2009

More blog vision boarding. I was pondering this morning how, in my ideal relationship, we would address situations where there seems to be a conflict between what he wants and what she wants. This could be in the arena of “small” things, such as where he wants to go to a concert and she wants [...]

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Two New Ways to Support This Blog

April 26, 2009

I’ve added two new features in the right-hand side bar, which are ways for you to support me in writing this blog (which will continue to feature lots of free advice and insights for men and women to have better relationships). 1. Buy Rori Raye’s wonderful book, Have the Relationship You Want, by clicking through [...]

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What commitment means to me …

April 25, 2009

Ok, as promised … the answer to the big question: “again, what does commitment means to you Erika? deep attachement? perhaps you could give us examples…” What does commitment mean to me? Call me traditional, I won’t mind, this is what it means to me: 1. Permanent: It means I’m bonded to a guy for [...]

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What commitment means to me (and please tell me what it means to you)

April 23, 2009

Wow, thanks everyone for the amazing comments on the past two posts, especially the article about how early to have sex. This blog is really starting to feel like a lively “forum” and I’m enjoying it immensely. One the the Anonymouses asked this question: “again, what does commitment means to you Erika? deep attachement? perhaps [...]

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How early to have sex: challenging the seduction community’s conventional wisdom

April 21, 2009

This is something I have heard often in the seduction community: Have sex with a woman as soon as possible because that will give you the most options about where the relationship goes from there. I’ve then heard dating coaches go on to talk about how the woman will be more invested in you, she’ll [...]

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More for my Female Readers: Why Saying "No" Is So Important

April 19, 2009

Rori Raye put up a really powerful post today. It’s a follow-up to her “friends with benefits” post from a week or so ago. It resonated with me at such a deep level that I’m going to print an excerpt here: This first series of posts is not about making the man wrong, or about [...]

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Goldilocks and the Three PUAs – Part I

April 17, 2009

A little self-amusing PUA fairytale … Goldilocks was a sweet girl. Objectively, she was about a 7.25 on the HB ten-point scale. A little chubby and a little plain. But being blonde, she got an extra two points from Savoy. :-p … So she considered herself a 9.25, which, truth be told, every woman should. [...]

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New Service Coming Soon – Email Consultations

April 17, 2009

Hey everyone, I’m just coming out of a very intense non-dating related project, and am still decompressing from that. We got a good result, but it was a very intense process. Anyway, I’ve been receiving a high volume of emails, private messages, and so forth, many asking for advice about particular dating situations. My apologies [...]

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