I’m really excited to share this with you all. This is my first official testimonial from a guy I worked with at the 21 Convention (we will call him Tim).

During my speech at the Convention, I explained the importance of a HOLISTIC approach to self-improvement. Many people do not understand the connections that have been created in their subconscious minds over the years. For example, a guy may really want to have more confidence with women, and he may not realize that a seemingly unrelated memory from when he was five years old or seven years old or thirteen years old is blocking him from being as powerful and confident as he could be …

After my speech, Tim decided to try out my discounted 90-minute Intro Session (you can sign up for yours on my coaching page here) …

We had a very intense and emotional session, and we covered a LOT of ground … I won’t get into all the specifics because they were quite personal, but suffice it to say, we got into some DEEP and OLD stuff … at first it seemed to be about a recent friendship that had gone awry … we soon learned the roots were much deeper than that …

The roots were so deep that he didn’t want to tell me all the details. I said, “It’s okay, you don’t have to tell me. We will simply tune in to the emotions of the experience, and that is enough for us to clear this out.”

Well, 90 minutes later, we had laughed, we had cried, we had gone to deep places that most people are too scared to go … and I felt that something had shifted. It is always my intention after a session that my client will have a MAJOR breakthrough. And deep down I knew that something had shifted.

But … I didn’t hear from Tim for a few days, and I was starting to feel a bit nervous … had we gone too deep? had he not felt a shift?

And then today I received this email, which made my heart sing

Hey Erika,

-Tim

Well, you better believe that brought a big smile to my face

Please don’t wait another moment to sign up for your Intro Session. I know there are a thousand reasons to say “I’ll do it later …” But when you read how much just ONE 90 minute session has already changed Tim’s life, don’t you want to start NOW?

Of course you do. Here’s the link: http://SpiritualSeduction.com/coaching

Almost all my work is on Skype, so we can work together no matter where you are in the world My reach is global, and many of my clients are international.

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Welcome back to Part 5 of the Vegas Guy Seduction Series. In this article, I will explain how he seamlessly transitioned from persuading me to go back to his hotel room to how we ended up in his bed, and how he escalated sexually …

If you are just tuning in now, please read Parts 1-4 before you read this article. You can find them here:

Part 1: Eye contact and initial approach
Part 2: Overcoming obstacles
Part 3: How to isolate the girl
Part 4: How to pull the girl

And now .. on to Part 5, covering Sexual Escalation …

The truth is, I get this question a lot from my clients. They want to know HOW to escalate sexually and not have it be awkward. As I’m going to explain when I’ve finished the “how to” part of this series, the paradox here is that THE LESS YOU THINK ABOUT IT, THE MORE SUCCESSFUL YOU ARE GOING TO BE.

It does not work to premeditate escalation. What works is to be IN THE MOMENT. To be truly connected to the girl. That ability to tap in to the emotional plane where all of us are connected is something I rarely find in men. I do know how to teach guys to do this, but they are not going to learn it in traditional bootcamps. It’s a skill that comes from first deeply connecting WITH YOURSELF, which I teach you how to do in my Holistic Belief Reprogramming sessions.

But I digress …

Here’s an important point: It is true that Vegas Guy was leading every step of this seduction, but you must understand something subtle that most guys miss … he’s doing what I call “BARELY LEADING” … lol, do you know what I mean by that? Yes, he’s initiating almost everything that’s going on, but he’s not doing it FROM HIS HEAD, where it would come off as incongruent, miscalibrated, and disconnected.

From the very first moment, he had locked in to MY energy, and while leading, he was also keeping pace with me, metaphorically walking beside me, every step of the way … if I wasn’t quite where he was, he backed up a little bit to give me the space to continue to follow his lead … because of this, I never had a “state break.” I never felt uncomfortable at a level that I would end the interaction.

This is seduction where it has become a true ART FORM. It’s a beautiful and seamless dance that feels absolutely MAGICAL. And it cannot be described in any satisfying way to someone who has not experienced it for himself.

It is impossible for you to do this unless you have something I talked about at the 21 Convention … massive amounts of EMPATHY. I can teach this to you if you hire me as your coach. Very few guys have it. Very few coaches know how to teach it.

Anyway … back to the story …

Vegas Guy and I walked about ten minutes or so back to the Bellagio, where he was staying. We talked the whole time. I don’t remember anything we said. I do remember feeling very comfortable, turned on, and in the moment.

When we arrived at his room, he did not jump on me immediately. No, no, no, he’s a master. Despite the fact that we had very little time, he didn’t rush it. He drew this all out very deliciously.

He sat in a chair by the window of the room, with a stunning view of the Bellagio fountains. If you’ve never seen them, they spray far, far into the air on a timer like geysers, and they glisten with the multi-colored lights that are all around the Vegas strip. It was magnificent. He pulled me onto his lap, and we talked some more. He said he already had me figured out, my “fear of intimacy.” It was a “warm read,” and the way he said it, it resonated with me, and I felt closer to him. I felt like he cared about me as a person, and wasn’t seeing me as a piece of meat …

At some point, I got up to use the bathroom, and when I came back, I sat on his bed instead of going back to the chair. He was so connected to me, that he didn’t miss a beat. He immediately got out of the chair and came to me. Seamless. He gently pushed me down on the bed and started making out with me.

Then he touched me all over, and we spent maybe close to an hour this way. He didn’t push me too hard. I never felt pressured.

He touched just right, it felt amazing.

(For those who don’t know me, I am basically celibate. I have never had a one night stand or a same night lay, EVER. And I don’t ever intend to … for me, seduction is not something to be rushed, it is something to be savored. One of the myths of the pickup community is that you can have sex with any girl the same night, and that is not true. It’s impossible with me. If he had pushed me too hard or too fast, I would have left. Fortunately for me, he was very sensitive to this and allowed our escalation to progress at a pace that felt good. This is again what I mean by “BARELY LEADING” … let go of your agenda and track with where she is at … be present with her … it’s a hell of a lot more fun )

I felt like I had died and gone to Heaven. The level of connection and presence that I felt with him was like Divine Euphoria. I could have stayed in his arms forever.

Although we did not have intercourse, it was OBVIOUS to me that he would be amazing in bed. This left me super curious to experience more of what he had to offer, though I was not willing to have sex that night. I was willing, though, to continue our connection beyond this brief meeting …

All because of the level of connection I felt with him, which in truth, I had felt from the very first moment he laid eyes on me …

Stay tuned for how he gallantly handled the end of our brief time together … wonderful … in Part 6 …

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Btw, here is my coaching page: http://SpiritualSeduction.com/coaching … sign up … I will teach you how to do what he did

We interrupt the Vegas Guy Seduction Series for this very important public announcement …

I loooove talking about money on this blog because so many people are too scared to talk openly about money. There are so many bullshit money conversations going on in this world (one of the most common being “I can’t afford it …”) that it’s a topic dearly in need of being addressed with honesty.

Someone submitted this comment on the coaching page of my site:

Personally I think what you have to offer may be very valuable, because EFT works..no doubt. I also think if someone takes your course they WILL improve, their life will change and they will achieve results they want.

Sincere-
Emwih:-)

Emwih’s comment raises several common misconceptions about my coaching that I’d like to address here … so here goes:

1. Holistic Belief Reprogramming is NOT Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or plain old tapping.

Emwih says he disagrees with charging more than other EFT practitioners. Emwih, I am not like other EFT practitioners. EFT is a powerful tool, but just like a laser scalpel, it is only as good as the surgeon who is using it. Most people using EFT are using it in a very piecemeal and ineffective fashion.

My revolutionary coaching system of Holistic Belief Reprogramming goes waaaaayyyy beyond typical EFT practice. I have created an entire system that views each person’s belief system holistically. I understand how one area of your life that is messed up (such as financial) is affecting another area of your life (such as dating). I understand which beliefs must be erased, and which ones must be implanted, for you to have sustainable results. Other practitioners do not offer this holistic approach.

Because my approach is so revolutionary, it WORKS MUCH FASTER than plain old EFT/tapping. As a result, my sessions are WORTH MORE. See, for example, what this client said about time and money in his review of my 15-week Miracle coaching program:

I think you could charge double what you are charging and it would still be worth it
1. You saved me lots of time where as other coaches & products wasted it (Time is the most precious thing there is.)
2. By helping me get out of my own way so quickly, I know I am going to make a TON of money this next year to come:)

How often do you see reviews on a multi-thousand dollar coaching program saying that the coach COULD CHARGE DOUBLE AND IT WOULD STILL BE WORTH IT?

(Read his full review here. Read more about my 15-week Course in Miracles here.)

2. My coaching pays for itself

My coaching consistently pays for itself when we work on financial issues during sessions. I have posted several articles on this blog documenting specific results of specific clients. The reason people don’t have money doesn’t have to do with what’s going on “out there” in the world. It’s perfectly possible to thrive financially even as a college student and even in the midst of a recession. All that is required is removing internal financial blocks about deserving-ness, etc. For an intro to my approach to Abundance issues using HBR, please purchase my very affordable and satisfaction guaranteed Abundance audio here.

3. My 15-week Miracle program comes with a Money Back Guarantee

This means that if you choose to work on financial issues during our program, and the program does not pay for itself (which has never happened yet), you can have your money back. You have absolutely nothing to lose. The truth is that, for many people, this money thing really is just an excuse not to do something that would actually work to solve their problems

4. For committed people, I am willing to do payment plans

This is on a person-by-person basis, please inquire at Erika@ErikaAwakening.com.

5. The only way I can give 100% to my clients is to charge the rates that I do.

Emwih’s suggestion that I make money some other way and lower my rates would detract from what I’m currently able to give to my clients, which is my full presence and energy. I would be depleted. Besides that, there’s another important reason not to lower my rates. Thinking that you “can’t afford” coaching is a disempowering limiting belief … it doesn’t serve anyone for me to pander to that belief. People who recognize the value of coaching and INVEST in themselves are going to get better results. I personally invested tens of thousands of dollars learning how to do what I do, and you are also benefiting from my massively expense Harvard Law School education, which I use to understand your belief system and get you much faster results.

This truly is an example of YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR …

So … that’s the scoop. The bottom line takeaway here is that my coaching is in fact MORE VALUABLE than other coaching. Pays for itself, money-back guarantee, results more spectacular than any other system I’ve seen. I’ve worked with some people who spent thousands and thousands of dollars on therapy that got them nowhere, and we are able to resolve the issues they spent years on in just a few sessions …

When you add it up, my coaching system is FAR LESS EXPENSIVE in terms of your money AND time than other coaching options.

The choice is yours. I urge you to make the least expensive choice and sign up for my 15-week program NOW.

Here’s the link: http://www.spiritualseduction.com/erikas-15-week-miracle-coaching-program

Hey everyone,

My speech at the 21 Convention went really well … several people told me they thought it was the best speech of the Convention … I’m sure everyone had their favorite, and still it felt great to get that feedback.

The video footage is usually released in September, so stay tuned for that. I’m super jazzed up after a really fun weekend, and in an hour I’ve got to go catch my flight home. Being that I’m awake anyway, I figured it would be a good time to bring you Part 4 of the Vegas Guy Seduction Series

If you’re just tuning in now, be sure to read Parts 1-3 first:

Part 1: Eye contact and initial approach
Part 2: Overcoming obstacles
Part 3: How to isolate the girl

And now … Part 4, How to Pull the Girl

After Vegas Guy isolated me by leading me to a quieter area of the bar and pulling me close to him, we talked for a short time … maybe half an hour tops. Here are some of the many things he did right:

1. Embrace deep conversation

Many people avoid “deep” conversation topics when they are first meeting someone. They treat the new person as a “stranger.” They fear being judged or “saying the wrong thing.” They choose “safe” topics.

This is a mistake.

In our first hour of conversation, Vegas Guy and I had covered topics as vast as marriage, polyamory, fear of intimacy, and threesomes … done right, this builds deep comfort and rapport very, very, very quickly. It creates the sense of having known each other for a much longer amount of time. Less than an hour after Vegas Guy first approached me, I already felt deeply connected to him … and beyond everything else he had done to create that feeling in me (described in Parts 1-3), the depth of our conversation was surely a HUGE factor.

2. Get the rest of your life handled

I also was picking up very important clues about Vegas Guy during this conversation. I learned, for example, that he owns his own business, which he very successfully runs. And that he was staying at a nice hotel. This is where lifestyle comes in, guys, and it CANNOT BE FAKED. A woman who has her own life handled is not going home with a guy who doesn’t. Everything I learned about Vegas Guy in that short conversation showed me that he was a guy who not only was good with women, but also a real person with a real life that functions well. The importance of this for why he succeeded with me cannot be overemphasized.

A huge mistake I see men make is trying to “fix” their issues with women without fixing the rest of their lives. An intuitive woman is going to see through this immediately. A man’s life must be holistically in balance and functioning well for him to get the best results with women. (I talked more about this in my 21 Convention speech, so you’ll get to hear more when the video footage comes out in September.)

3. Continue to lead

Another thing Vegas Guy did was continue to lead. It was not very long after we had moved to the new location in the club that he suggested we go back to his hotel room, which coincidentally, happened to be at the Bellagio right next door to the hotel where we were staying. Normally, I would consider it preposterous to go home with a guy I met less than an hour before. But again, having early on ascertained my difficult logistical situation, with only a few hours left before I had to catch my plane home, Vegas Guy handled this perfectly. He again put it to me as a choice, saying something like, “So you only have three hours left in Vegas right? And we can spend those three hours here in this loud club with 500 people around us, or we can get to know each other where it’s quiet and comfortable.”

Well, when he put it that way, lol, the choice was really obvious. But just as my defenses went up a bit when he first made eye contact with me (Part 1 of this series), the same thing happened again. So he got a bit of resistance from me, some mild indecision, and after a bit of negotiating, I said that I still felt nervous, and I needed another 10 minutes in the club to feel comfortable enough to leave. With a sigh, he agreed to my 10 minutes plan (making it obvious that he felt it was silly to spend even another 10 minutes at this club when we obviously both wanted each other soooooo badly), but he quickly did the next right thing … he used my 10 minutes to …

4. Build Sexual Tension

Just one minute in to my 10 minutes, he said, “You have nine minutes left.”

LOL You see how brilliant that was? Still leading, allowing me to go at my own pace, but really cranking up the sexual tension. A few more minutes went by, and he said: “You now have three and a half minutes left.”

This was done very playfully, and it stirred up all kinds of sexual tension in my body. Meanwhile, …

5. Continue to Touch Her

This whole time, he had my body very close to his. To put my wine glass on the bar in between sips, I had to reach around him to the counter, and every time I did , we were deepening this intimacy. And finally, something I rarely see guys be able to do … only the True Masters can do it …

6. Be Comfortable with Silence, and Learn to be Very Present With Her

Somewhere in this time period, Vegas Guy moved into a space of such deep connection that I felt my heart fully open. I felt such a deep level of connection that I literally went speechless and virtually melted into him. He allowed it. There were long silences in our conversation where I was doing nothing but feeling into him and our connection, and it felt amazing. Most men feel the urge to talk all the time because they are nervous. Big mistake. Learn to be present with her instead.

Vegas Guy never did tell me that my 10 minutes was up. He let me decide that on my own. Finally, I had reached a level of comfort with him that I knew I wanted to be with him the rest of the night back at his hotel room, even if it was only for one or two precious hours. So I said: “Ok, my 10 minutes are up. I’m ready.”

And he led me back to his room.

So here are some takeaways of what Vegas Guy did right, which persuaded me to go with him to his hotel room approximately one hour after he initially approached me (which, as I’ve mentioned before virtually never happens with me):
1. Embrace deep conversation topics (builds rapport and comfort rapidly)
2. Make sure your life is handled, and communicate this to the woman by weaving your life passions and interests into the conversation
3. Continue to lead (he was leading from the very first moment he set eyes on me, and he never stopped leading)
4. Build sexual tension
5. Continue to touch her
6. Be comfortable with silence, and learn to be very present with her

A few days ago, I asked Vegas Guy to tell me more about how he seduces a woman, and his answer was very intriguing and not like anything I hear from most men in the seduction community.

He said it’s “Putting each woman in that place of euphoria and safety.”

That surely is what he did with me.

Stay tuned for Part 5: How to Escalate Sexually

And if you’d like me to teach you how to do what Vegas Guy did, be sure to email me at Erika@ErikaAwakening.com to sign up for private coaching …

Before we begin today, a few important things:

1. The 21 Convention, which starts tomorrow in Orlando, Florida. Whether you are a man or a woman, this conference is not to be missed. We have a star-studded line-up of speakers, including yours truly (I will be speaking on Saturday, and it will be AMAZING ). http://www.eventbrite.com/event/395489921/erika2010/772379070

2. In honor of what my coaching system is all about … becoming your BEST, SEXIEST, FREE-EST, HAPPIEST, MOST EXPRESSIVE SELF … I’m sharing another one of the pictures from the NYC photo shoot in March. To me, these photographs are a CELEBRATION … of expression, of sexuality, of femininity, of vulnerability …

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All right, now what you’ve all been waiting for … Part 3 of the Vegas Guy Seduction Series, or more specifically, How to Isolate the Girl …

In Part 2 of this series (which I recommend you read first, if you haven’t already), we talked about Overcoming Obstacles. The most important takeaway point from Part 2 is that, usually, an obstacle is ONLY AS BIG AS YOU MAKE IT. Often they can be ignored. Often they can be overcome through confident action. But never, never, in your mind, allow it to become a wall. Make a resolution NOW that a day will come in your life where you are going to walk through walls as if they were made of vapor, and then take that attitude out into the world … a REAL MAN uses an obstacle as an excuse to STEP UP HIS GAME.

(This applies to women, too, I have recently learned to have fun with seeming “obstacles” instead of getting upset about them … men “test” us just as we “test” them … and having fun with these “tests” tends to make them disappear VERY quickly … )

So … after Vegas Guy had overcome the obstacle of my male friends, he probably realized there would be lots of continued distractions if we continued to hang out in that foyer with all of my friends …

I don’t remember exactly what he said to isolate me … but I think it was something along the lines of, “Let’s go somewhere we can talk more privately.” The words don’t matter as much, what I remember (and, again, this would rarely work with me … it only worked because he had already established very solid attraction and rapport) is what he DID next …

He turned his body almost 180 degrees away from me, and he put his hand out behind him for me to grab on to …

Notice everything he is doing right here:

1. Decisive/Confident: He doesn’t ask my permission, he just does it, and the only way for me to continue rapport with him is to grab on to his outstretched hand … I would have had to go WAY out of my way to challenge him on this because his body was already moving in that direction …

2. Leadership: He is leading the entire interaction, from the initial eye contact, to the approach, to the suggestion of talking more private, to the action of moving us to a different location. I never had to think about anything … I never had to “fill” any gaps in his leadership, which is a huge (and very common) attraction killer for me.

3. Kinesthetic: He’s now got us holding hands, and after that, the physical intimacy only continued to escalate … it was a very subtle way to start touching me.

The other thing he’s doing right this entire time is paying his FULL attention to me. Schools of seduction vary on this topic, but as a woman who has dozens of “fun, flirty friendships” with men that never become physically intimate (and I love those friendships, they add a lot to my life and are truly wonderful) … I can tell you that what separates the guys I fall for from the ones I don’t ever get physical with is that the ones I fall for hone in on me. They see something in me, beyond looks, at a soul level, and THAT is the basis for a deeper connection. A man who was trying to “be the life of the party” and talk to all the girls to me is a turn-off when it comes to the choice of becoming sexual …

… another way to say this, is that I have to FEEL A MAN’S INTENSE DESIRE FOR ME IN PARTICULAR in order for me to reciprocate it … If I don’t feel that from him, I don’t feel attracted and I don’t feel the depth of connection that I need to become sexually comfortable with him.

After Vegas Guy held out his hand, which I grabbed on to, he led me to a quieter place in the club, and he positioned us so that his back was against the bar, and I was facing into him, very close. Hopefully you see the obvious here … by doing it this way, he has blocked me from having almost any visual distractions, and he now has visual “control” of our surroundings. Even though I knew 30 of the people at the club, I don’t think I saw any of them the rest of the night … pretty impressive instincts for isolating a girl without moving her more than 20 feet from the original location.

What happened next was PURE MAGIC … I literally melted into him, and it felt like my heart opened wide … there was a lot of silence and some very important conversation … but that’s for the next article … which will be about how … against all odds … he pulled me back to his hotel room WITHIN ONE HOUR of meeting me …

… which almost never happens to me … and is sooooo MAGICAL when it does

Truly a Master

Stay tuned for Part 4: How to Pull the Girl

xoxo,
Erika

All right, here is the much awaited Part 2 of the Vegas Guy seduction series … are you ready?

(In case you missed it, I highly recommend that you read Part 1 first by clicking here.)

Today we are going to talk about overcoming obstacles, most of which YOU MADE UP IN YOUR OWN MIND and don’t really exist … as you are about to see …

(When you get more advanced, you realize that you actually created ALL of the obstacles, but most people aren’t ready to accept that yet, and we will save it for another time …)

After I had already published Part 1 of this series, I realized there was one very important takeaway point from that article that I forgot to mention … but what’s so perfect about this takeaway is that it actually fits in with the theme of this post: overcoming obstacles.

… it has to do with his response when I made the conscious decision to ignore him after he started making eye contact with me from across the room because I thought he had a girlfriend …

Obstacle # 1 – The Girl Appears Not to Be Interested

Want to take a guess at what he did right?

Ok, I’ll tell ya …

He was not reactive to me. Most guys I see when I go out to bars or clubs are looking for me to approve of them or do something affirmative before they are going to approach me. Most guys I coach would take my sudden apparent lack of reciprocation of the eye contact as a rejection. Many guys I talk to at conferences would have already been JUDGING me because they felt rejected by me …

Instead of assuming the best (which in this case was that I had a misunderstanding of his social logistics, it had nothing to do with not being attracted to him), most guys will REJECT THEMSELVES before the girl ever has a chance to reject them.

How smart of a move is that, guys? Rejecting yourself GUARANTEES that you will NOT succeed.

He didn’t do any of those things. He was not dependent on what I did. He had already made up his mind that HE was interested in me. He had enough confidence to assume attraction. And with that confidence, he was able to assume that he’d be successful approaching me even though I had stopped reciprocating any eye contact.

Instead of withdrawing when an obstacle arose, he stepped up his game. He assertively got into my space where, one way or another, I was going to be compelled to talk to him, at least for a few minutes. And a few minutes was all he needed to establish that he was a really fun, confident guy that I wanted to learn more about.

I’m not sure he did this consciously, and I can’t imagine he somehow intuited what my “objection” was (I thought he had a girlfriend), but notice what he did … by approaching me like that, he eliminated the objection. His decisive action made me realize *immediately* that I had been mistaken about him having a girlfriend.

(Open relationship or not, I’ve never seen a guy with a girlfriend be that assertive about approaching me. So he DISARMED MY OBJECTION by ACTION.)

Do you see how the Average Frustrated Chump, who rejected himself before he ever approached me, totally lost out in a situation like this FOR NO GOOD REASON AT ALL?

The bottom line is that YOU DON’T KNOW WHY she seemed to suddenly lose interest. It may be an easily overcome-able objection, or she may have simply become absorbed in her conversation with her friend.

And unless you ASSUME THE BEST, and get OFF YOUR PANSY ASS and APPROACH HER, you are not ever going to find out what’s going on with her … if a man is not confident to do that much, how am I EVER going to feel attracted to him???

Okay, now on with the next obstacle he overcame

Obstacle #2: Logistics

What did Vegas Guy do after he had approached and we had our first few exchanges of conversation?

I don’t remember exactly everything that was said, but a few highlights stand out very clearly.

First, he must have asked questions to learn my logistics very quickly, and he framed everything he did around that. Despite the fact that we were in Vegas, my logistics were not ideal. In fact, they were horrible. I told him I had an early morning flight home and a roommate, and was probably not going to stay out late.

He knows this means he has to act fast. If all he does is get my phone number, how likely is it that I’m going to feel a strong enough connection to continue things after this one night we have together when he and I don’t even live in the same city?

(… btw, I also was very set on getting at least a few hours of sleep, and he met me at most four hours before my taxi was coming to take me to the airport, so you can see his window of opportunity was very, very small … in the next few articles I’ll show you how he overcame these nearly impossible logistics.)

Obstacle #3: My Male Friends

Vegas Guy also learned very early in our conversation that I was in a group of 30 people, and I’m sure he figured out pretty quickly that most of them (about 27 out of 30) were men. This was especially obvious a few minutes after he opened me, when two of my male friends (both of them very skilled coaches) started interrupting his exchange with me. In fact, they actively started flirting with me. One of them grabbed my wine glass and pulled it about five feet away, pulling my attention and actually my body WAY over there …

A lesser guy would have crumbled … Again, this is a moment where an AFC is very likely to reject himself and think “oh she’s here with all these guys, I don’t stand a chance.” A lesser guy would have walked away. Vegas Guy did not move a centimeter. He stood right where he had been standing, and he had already established enough connection that I gravitated back to him very quickly. He almost moved me with his eyes. I wanted to see where this was going ……..

When I got back over to him, I explained that these were some of the coaches and friends of mine. Vegas Guy was not defensive about it. He was very matter of fact. He basically put it to me as an either/or. Did I prefer to hang out with my friends? If so, he’d be happy to let me do so. Or, in the few hours left in Vegas, would I like to have some fun together?

I don’t remember the exact words, but I do remember that, energetically, he presented it to me as a very neutral choice, and he did the same thing with a few things after that. And by this time, he had me thinking of this as one of “those” moments in life where you go with it because you want to find out what’s going to happen. So he had me. I chose him.

What he did next made it much less likely that he would have to address any more obstacles … but that’s the next article … isolating the girl … lol

So stay tuned for Part 3 of the Vegas Seduction Series: Isolating the Girl

Only an expert can isolate me, btw, many have tried, very few have succeeded … I will tell you all the juicy details in the next installment …

And of course, if you want me to teach you how to do what he did in private coaching, email me at Erika@ErikaAwakening.com

Before I begin this article, I know many of you are waiting for the second installment of the Vegas Guy seduction story. Not to worry … it’s coming … after I wrote the first article, I also realized there were some takeaway points from his initial approach that I forgot to mention … so I’ll explain those as well, in Part 2.

(And … I’ve been considering how to make this information WAY MORE PRACTICAL for you … truth is, with most guys, even if I tell them in excruciating detail exactly what Vegas Guy did, but many of them still won’t be able to DO IT successfully … because they haven’t cleared out the limiting beliefs and mental and emotional garbage that are in the way, and thus they are not congruent …

This is where my Holistic Belief Reprogramming method comes in … and especially my 15-week course …

What I’m considering is creating some 30-minute tapping/meditation audios specific to each stage of The Perfect Seduction (for example, limiting beliefs about “approaching a woman who’s out of my league”) and offering those for sale here … so guys can quickly become CONGRUENT with executing the Perfect Seduction, not just reading about it.

If these tapping/meditation audios are something you’d be interested in purchasing, please email me at erika@ErikaAwakening.com … if there’s sufficient demand, I will start creating them, and I’d like to customize them to sticking points that are most frustrating for YOU, so please let me know).

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Now on to the topic of the moment: A reader asked me why I recommend that women attend events like the 21 Convention and other men’s conferences that I speak and coach at …

Ever hear the maxim “Seek to understand before seeking to be understood”?

Yeah, it’s pretty fundamental. If you really want to be standing in your own power all of the time, the best way to do that is to have empathy for ALL PERSPECTIVES, especially the perspectives that seem most “unlike” you. For men, that means stepping imaginatively into a woman’s world to understand what she wants and needs. It might mean reading a few Harlequin romances to understand why they are the best selling books on the planet (because most women want to be swept off their feet by a powerful, dominant man).

For women, that means that instead of taking the stuff men do personally, or trying to “fix” them, it is time to take a little venture on the other side of the gender fence and really UNDERSTAND what is going on over there …

To make this really crystal clear, I would like to give you my several years ago Erika perspective BEFORE I studied all the literature on both sides of the gender fence and became a dating/relationship/life coach, contrasted with my current perspective …

BEFORE:

I used to do what most women do: I only read the books and dating advice tailored for women. This included ridiculous and utterly useless books like The Rules. I attempted to implement this advice, with disastrous results. I would not call men, and they still were NOT calling me. I was sharing my feelings with men, and they were responding in ways that made me never want to share my feelings with a man ever again. I took this very personally. I thought it meant there was something wrong with me. I used my dismal results to beat myself up, putting myself in ever deepening negative downward emotional spirals. Nothing was working to improve my dating life.

AFTER:

Fast forward a few years… Erika ventures over to the men’s side of the relationship advice fence, and lo and behold, she discovers … that many men in our modern-day society are TOTALLY PARALYZED. They are feminized. They are UP IN THEIR HEADS. They don’t know how to ask for a woman’s phone number. They don’t know how to secure a second date. They don’t know how to lead. That’s why an entire industry has sprouted up to TEACH THEM.

Erika attends numerous workshops for men, and sees up close and personal how these men (the same men she had been unsuccessfully dating) are STRUGGLING with their own dating lives.

Erika finally sees IT’S NOT ABOUT ME … THESE GUYS ARE STRUGGLING WITH ALL WOMEN. If he didn’t call, it didn’t mean “he just wasn’t into me.” It meant, “He didn’t know what the f*ck he was doing.” It meant, “He was totally emotionally blocked due to earlier traumas in his life, and he is not yet able to connect with ANY woman.”

EVEN IF HE WANTED TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT, HE IS NOT CAPABLE OF IT. NOT RIGHT NOW, AT THIS STAGE OF HIS DEVELOPMENT. NOTHING YOU DO OR SAY IS GOING TO CHANGE THIS RIGHT NOW. EASY TO MOVE ON.

Ahhhhh … finally … understanding … I can exhale … I can relax … I can understand something very, very important …

By attending all these workshops for men, MY ability to connect with men and really understand WHERE THEY ARE AT in their lives, is resulting in gradually my own dating results getting BETTER AND BETTER.

Why? Well, for one thing, I’m no longer taking things personally … I can see now that there is a human being on the other side of my interactions, and in many cases that human being is struggling with his own issues that have nothing to do with me …

Meanwhile, I’m learning better and better how to connect with people, men and women, WHEREVER THEY ARE IN THEIR JOURNEY, and I start to understand the difference between a momentary, temporary interaction where both people learn something really valuable, but ARE NOT MEANT TO BE TOGETHER LONG-TERM, not because there is anything wrong with either of them, but because THEY ARE NOT IN THE SAME EMOTIONAL PLACE where they can have sustained growth TOGETHER …

and THE KIND OF MAN WHO CAN MATCH ME, STEP FOR STEP … someone who has reached the same level of evolvement that I have …

I start to be more accepting of people. I’m no longer placing unrealistic demands on them. I don’t expect a man who is STRUGGLING to be able to give me what I want … and I now am an EXPERT … I can instantly recognize men who can or cannot, at their current level of development, give me what I want …

This gives me patience. This teaches me the value of doing nothing. I come to understand that a really masculine man is going to show up for me in a really powerful way immediately … and the rest of men will be friends, momentary learning partners, students of mine, still valuable, still appreciated and loved, but NOT LIFE PARTNER material.

This takes all the pressure off the momentary interactions. This allows me to be a much more relaxed, fully feminine woman. This opens up the space for a man with true life partner potential to find me …

You see where I’m going with this? That’s why men’s success conventions like the 21 Convention are not just for men anymore …

You will have the opportunity to meet dozens of men. From the students who are there, you will learn to understand men’s struggles, and you will no longer take those struggles personally when the result is a man not calling you or not handling a date well … from many of the coaches who are there, you will see a model for men who have developed their masculinity and confidence … from everyone you meet, you will learn more about your own humanity.

“Seek to understand before seeking to be understood.”

Whether you are a man or a woman, you do not want to miss this event …

Love and light,
- Erika

Hey everyone,

I’ve been recuperating from surgery and haven’t felt up to posting, but I wanted to start this Vegas Seduction series of articles now, which seems appropriate on the eve of the 21 Convention (July 21-25 in Orlando – the world’s most amazing men’s success convention) … if you’re not signed up yet, go here now …

Those who know me from the past couple of years of blog posting know that I’m one of the most difficult women on the planet to seduce. Pulling me out of a venue where I’m partying with my friends is well nigh impossible. Why? Because unless you are in the top one percent of men who know what they are doing with women, I know I’ll have more fun staying put in the club or bar with my friends than I will going somewhere with a guy I just met …

Nothing personal, that’s just the flat-out truth.

If you’re going to have any chance of pulling me, it will be by showing me you are an expert when it comes to seduction and women … so that I get carried away by the moment, and feel MORE intrigued by the prospect of getting to know you better in private than I do about the prospect of spending a fun evening with my friends.

This rarely happens.

Most guys are too timid to approach me at all. And the few guys who can get up the courage to say hello rarely have the powerfully congruent intention and non-verbal fundamentals required to take that initial “hello” all the way to the bedroom … much less do so within the span of an hour.

Much to my surprise, on my last night in Vegas, with my plane flight just hours away, one of these rare men found me. So I want to share with you, segment by segment, why he was so successful where nearly every other guy has failed …

Part 1 – The Approach

This all happened when I was least expecting it. A group of about 30 of us were at Pure, a Vegas club. I had already been there for an hour or more, and because I had a plane flight early in the morning, I planned to hang out a little longer and then go back to our hotel. It had already been a long night of watching dozens of men stand around not approaching anybody, and I was feeling a bit “done” with all of it. I was absorbed in conversation with some of the female coaches, minding my own business (as always ), when I noticed a guy (we will call him Vegas Guy) making eyes at me …

All right … the first thing he did right was that initial eye contact. So much of this is non-verbal, truly it is a “vibe” thing, and the only way most men are going to be able to pull it off is to do a tremendous amount of inner game work, but I’ll describe it as best I can.

His eyes said very clearly and decisively: “I want you.” His eyes were assertive. I looked over, then looked away, and he was persistent about it.

His eyes said: “I want you and I’m going to have you.”

He was smiling, too. He looked mischievous and playful.

Now, immediately, I felt turned on … most women love being desired. I looooove feeling desired by a confident, unapologetic man.

And for most women – me being no exception – getting turned on like that triggers us to put up our defenses a little bit. I noticed a pretty blonde girl hanging all over him, and I immediately assumed it was his girlfriend, and that he was making eyes at other women anyway. (Nice benefit of the doubt, huh? )

So I turned to my girlfriend and said, “That guy is totally making eyes at me, but it looks like he has a girlfriend. I’m so not into that. As far as I’m concerned, he doesn’t even exist.”

And I meant it. I immediately started ignoring him and even momentarily forgot all about him, as I had mentally written him off as “taken.” I was fully immersed back in conversation with the girls when I must have felt a nudge behind me.

I turned around, and there were his eyes again, but this time that assertiveness was right in my face. Somehow he had spanned the 15 feet between us without me even noticing what was happening. His presence was assertive, but not aggressive. Friendly in a powerful, dominant way. This was not a “hey, I’m Bob,” and holding out a limp handshake from three feet away kind of introduction. This was a “I’m in your space now, I want you, what are you going to do about it?” kind of introduction.

(As DJ Fuji would say, lol, he had definitely “locked in.” )

I don’t remember what he said at the outset. Probably something as simple as “hi, how are you?” It doesn’t really matter, because his eyes were doing all the talking. Powerful, dominant, sexual talking.

Within the first few minutes, we established that he did not have a girlfriend (the blonde was someone who latched onto him in the line to get into the club), that he had noticed me because I was drinking wine in a club and he liked my eyes, and pretty much everything else was non-verbal. Pure sexual chemistry. …

(LOL, he just texted me: “Hey beautiful how was your day?” as I finished that last sentence … funny synchronicity, huh?)

Anyway, here’s a wrap-up of what he did right on the initial approach: direct, assertive, fast, decisive, simple, perfect non-verbals, clearly knew what he wanted and wasn’t afraid to go after it (i.e., ultra-confident) …

Stay tuned for Part 2, how he handled my male friends and how he isolated me …

Erika Awakening

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