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		<title>Why 95% of guys in the community NEVER improve &#8230; don&#8217;t be a statistic</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:29:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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One of my clients had a MAJOR breakthrough last night.
He&#8217;s on the Erika Awakening Holistic Belief Reprogramming plus Tough Love plan  
Until recently, he was a community statistic.  A guy who has tried what&#8217;s being offered in the community but has not seen any appreciable improvement in his results.
DJ Fuji often mentions in his [...]]]></description>
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<p>One of my clients had a MAJOR breakthrough last night.</p>
<p>He&#8217;s on the Erika Awakening <a href="http://erikaawakening.com/miracles">Holistic Belief Reprogramming</a> plus Tough Love plan <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Until recently, he was a community statistic.  A guy who has tried what&#8217;s being offered in the community but has not seen any appreciable improvement in his results.</p>
<p>DJ Fuji often mentions in his talks that 95% of guys in the PUA community never get better.</p>
<p><strong> Do you know why that is?</strong></p>
<p>They are not addressing the real issues.</p>
<p>The reason my client has not previously been getting results has nothing to do with his INTELLECTUAL KNOWLEDGE  of pickup.</p>
<p>It has to do with the FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS that he has been avoiding his whole life.</p>
<p>My client intellectually understands all the techniques that are being taught.  But like a very high percentage of guys in the community, he has not been able to implement them.  He has a lot of very &#8220;rational&#8221; sounding reasons why he &#8220;can&#8217;t&#8221; implement them, but they can all be boiled down to one word:  FEAR.</p>
<p>And at the end of the day, the fear is not of women, or of failing, or of anything else you might think.  He has FEAR of feeling his own feelings.  Because those feelings are UNCOMFORTABLE.</p>
<p>In order to get results, he has to face up to loads of anger, shame, guilt, and grief (the Shadow Self), and get those feelings OUT of his vibration.   Otherwise, women can feel that crap from miles away and will NOT be attracted.</p>
<p>Like many of us, my client had a not-so-fun childhood.  He learned from a bunch of experiences that he was socially &#8220;not good enough.&#8221;  He also learned that being in an intimate space with a woman was a recipe for PAIN and CRITICISM.</p>
<p>Because of those experiences, he has a habit of AVOIDING any situation that would re-trigger those painful feelings.</p>
<p>The subconscious mind is always ten steps ahead of the conscious mind.  If, based on experiences from the past, the subconscious mind associates intimacy or women or talking to strangers with PAIN, it will commit all kinds of shenanigans to avoid that pain in the future.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, the result is that many people end up living, essentially,  IN A BOX.  Their comfort zone gets smaller and smaller, and they intellectually rationalize why they &#8220;can&#8217;t&#8221; do what other people do easily, such as approaching women or public speaking or any number of other activities that have simply become FAR TOO TERRIFYING even to attempt.</p>
<p>How can learning a bunch of techniques ever help a guy overcome that much subconscious FEAR?  Most guys are not even in touch with their fear, but the fear will sabotage them no matter how many techniques they learn, and no matter what they try to do.</p>
<p>What is the answer?</p>
<p>YOU MUST STOP AVOIDING THE FEELINGS.</p>
<p>When the feelings are faced directly, especially with the help of powerful tools such as <a href="http://www.erikaawakening.com/miracles">Holistic Belief Reprogramming</a>, the FEAR will dissolve.</p>
<p>When the fear is avoided, it GROWS stronger.  It leads to increasingly miserable outcomes.</p>
<p>Yet &#8230; in the community, virtually NOBODY has a system that helps guys erase their fear AT ITS ROOT in the subconscious mind.</p>
<p>Except me.  <a href="http://www.erikaawakening.com/miracles">Holistic Belief Reprogramming</a> will erase the fear.</p>
<p>And then guys don&#8217;t need pickup techniques anymore.  Once they have tuned into their intuition and become FEARLESS, the right thing to do and say in EVERY SITUATION will simply come to them, without having to think about it.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s the best kept secret in pickup, because I am the ONLY person offering it.</p>
<p>With me standing by your side, we will directly face every fear that you have, apply HBR, and watch the fear dissolve.</p>
<p>Your results will be FAR faster than any &#8220;outer game&#8221; method can achieve on its own.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m really thrilled for my client.  He got a result last night that he has NEVER been able to get before.  I give him a lot of credit for taking a big step out of his comfort zone despite his FEARS.</p>
<p>And guess what happened when he got his new result?  Did he feel all good feelings?  NO.  Along with the feelings of accomplishment came to the surface a lot of very UNCOMFORTABLE feelings.</p>
<p>So I said to him this morning, &#8220;Yep, see, that&#8217;s why you haven&#8217;t been getting the results you say you want.  Those feelings you are feeling right now are EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN AVOIDING.&#8221;</p>
<p>Fortunately, he has me by his side to help him dissolve every negative feeling that arises.  We simply keep peeling off layers of the emotional onion.  We knock fears down, one domino at a time.  One limiting belief at a time.  And as we do that, he will continue to see RESULTS THAT NO OTHER SYSTEM ON THE MARKET CAN GET FOR YOU.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t be a community statistic.  <a href="http://www.erikaawakening.com">Sign up for my free 7-day video course today</a>.</p>
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		<title>Sexual Healing Week &#8211; EFT Special</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:33:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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The theme of my sessions with clients this week has been sexual healing.  I&#8217;m taking this as a sign from the Universe.  
Thus, in the holiday spirit, I am dedicating this week to liberating all of us from any remaining sexual guilt or shame that we may be carrying around.  I am [...]]]></description>
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<p>The theme of my sessions with clients this week has been sexual healing.  I&#8217;m taking this as a sign from the Universe.  </p>
<p>Thus, in the holiday spirit, I am dedicating this week to liberating all of us from any remaining sexual guilt or shame that we may be carrying around.  I am offering a <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/faq">one hour EFT session</a> at a discounted rate of $95 (it&#8217;s $115 if you&#8217;d like a custom audio recording that you can tap along to later for added benefits).  </p>
<p>Issues that you might want to release in this session would be things like the following:<br />
- I don&#8217;t feel comfortable with my sexuality;<br />
- I don&#8217;t feel comfortable with women&#8217;s (or men&#8217;s) sexuality;<br />
- I&#8217;m troubled by the mixed messages I&#8217;ve received all my life about sex;<br />
- I don&#8217;t feel as free to express myself sexually as I would like;<br />
- I have hangups in particular areas that I would like to be liberated from;<br />
- I feel guilty about my sexual desires;<br />
- I don&#8217;t feel comfortable talking to people about my sexuality;<br />
- Etc.</p>
<p>We will release fears, guilt, shame, doubts, and inner conflicts about your sexuality and reclaim your birthright as a sexual, creative being.</p>
<p>Please note:  if you are wanting to address a serious sexual trauma event, I do have experience clearing those.  However, a one hour session is not the place to do that.  Please email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com, and we will create a custom package for you to release the old trauma.  I want to be able to give you the full support you will need to do this.  </p>
<p>For everyone else, please sign up using the link below (offers expires on Friday, Dec. 11 at 5:00 pm Pacific time), so please sign up now.</p>
<p>To read more about my compassionate coaching, <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/coaching">go here</a>.  To read testimonials from my happy clients, <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/testimonials">go here</a>.</p>
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		<title>Erika&#8217;s Financial Aid Program &#8211; Tap for Cash</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:48:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hey everyone,
I&#8217;ve had a number of people who are interested in working with me and who say &#8220;I&#8217;m broke, and I can&#8217;t afford coaching with you.  What can I do?&#8221;
I do not offer free coaching for many reasons, not the least of which is out of respect for myself, my limited time, and my [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Hey everyone,</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve had a number of people who are interested in working with me and who say &#8220;I&#8217;m broke, and I can&#8217;t afford coaching with you.  What can I do?&#8221;</p>
<p>I do not offer free coaching for many reasons, not the least of which is out of respect for myself, my limited time, and my own financial well-being.  </p>
<p>There are more philosophical reasons as well though.  Our coaching begins here.  &#8220;I can&#8217;t afford this&#8221; is really nothing more nor less than a limiting belief.  I do not want to reinforce poverty beliefs in anyone.  I would much rather teach you how to be abundant.  </p>
<p>Part of why I don&#8217;t give free coaching anymore is that there is a sacredness about learning how to give.  Many of the people I know who have money issues actually have much deeper issues about not knowing how to give to others.</p>
<p>So if you want this coaching, which I promise will transform your life far beyond your wildest dreams, take this first step:  follow the instructions below, tap for cash, and when the cash shows up, use it to purchase a coaching package with me.  I will then show you how to use Emotional Freedom Technique in far more advanced ways so that money will no longer be a concern in your life.  </p>
<p>Step #1:  Learn the basics of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping):  Go to <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/faq">my FAQ page here</a>.  Watch my free 10-minute introductory EFT video to learn how to tap.</p>
<p>Step #2:  Take out a sheet of paper and write down on it your goal.  Choose a financial goal that feels somewhat out of reach, like a stretch.  Example:  &#8220;I currently make $300,000 per year working 10 hours per week.&#8221;</p>
<p>Step #3:  Draw a line down the paper.  At the top of one column, write &#8220;fears of failure.&#8221;  At the top of the other column, write &#8220;fears of success.&#8221;  Then write down everything you can think of for why you can&#8217;t have this much money (not educated enough, not smart enough, etc.), and write down all the reasons why you&#8217;re scared of having this much money (e.g., my friends might be jealous and ask me for handouts).  </p>
<p>Step #4:  Use the EFT I taught you in the introductory video on the FAQ page to tap through all of your limiting beliefs about money.  Go as deep with this as you possibly can.  Try to remember who taught you these scarcity beliefs, and when you learned them.  The more thorough you are, the more likely it is that your financial situation will change.</p>
<p>Step #5:  When all the negatives are cleared out, start using &#8220;I choose&#8221; statements with EFT.  &#8220;I choose to be open to the possibility that money comes to me from unexpected sources.&#8221;  &#8220;I choose to receive $5000 in cash right away so that I can sign up for this coaching program and transform my financial life entirely.&#8221;  If your mind has a goal to work towards, such as signing up for one of my programs, you are more likely to manifest the cash.  The Universe needs some inspiration to bring us what we want.  </p>
<p>Step #6:  When the cash appears out of nowhere (which it will if you&#8217;ve cleared out enough limiting beliefs), <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/coaching">go to my coaching page, sign up for one of my programs</a>, and I will teach you far more advanced methods of transforming your financial and personal life.  </p>
<p>Bring on the abundance! <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>If you&#8217;d like to inquire about my coaching programs, or propose a custom package tailored just for you, email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com.</p>
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		<title>A letter for liberating relationships, reprised</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 09:24:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is a rewrite of an article I posted over a year ago now.  Our Word is very powerful, so I decided it was important to make some clarifications:
What kills relationships?
Guilt.  Unspoken assumptions, expectations, and judgments.  Fear.  Stifling feelings.  Resentment.  
What brings relationships back to life?
Scary honesty.  Empathy. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>This is a rewrite of <a href="http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com/2008/10/letter-for-liberating-relationships.html">an article I posted over a year ago now</a>.  Our Word is very powerful, so I decided it was important to make some clarifications:</p>
<p><strong>What kills relationships?</strong></p>
<p>Guilt.  Unspoken assumptions, expectations, and judgments.  Fear.  Stifling feelings.  Resentment.  </p>
<p><strong>What brings relationships back to life?</strong></p>
<p>Scary honesty.  Empathy.  Acceptance.  Living in the present moment.  Co-creating as you go along.  Fluidity and non-attachment.  Deep commitment to each other&#8217;s well being.  Accountability and integrity.  </p>
<p><strong>Why is it so challenging sometimes to sustain the aliveness?</strong></p>
<p>So much social conditioning.  So many assumptions to unravel.  So much temptation to think about the past or the future.  So much temptation not to speak up when something is bothering you.  And then even if you speak up, how do you find the words?  So much fear of hurting or offending or disappointing the other person. So much fear that something will go &#8220;wrong.&#8221;  </p>
<p><strong>My Letter of Liberation</strong> </p>
<p>I wanted to write a letter that would allow a relationship to start from a whole new place.  I&#8217;d like to send this letter to every friend, prospective romantic partner, colleague &#8230; well, I&#8217;d like to send it to everyone.  So in a way I&#8217;m doing that right now:</p>
<p><strong>Dear Person Who Matters to Me,</strong></p>
<p>In any relationship that I care about (and I count my relationship with you as one of those, whatever form it ends up taking), there are a few things that seem important to clarify at the beginning.   </p>
<p>So much of our social conditioning is destructive to relationships because it&#8217;s based on guilt.  <strong>I live by a different creed.</strong>  Whatever form our connection takes, I want for us to transcend social conditioning.  I hope you are ok with me sharing this.  I&#8217;d rather we talk about it openly than risk having one of those situations where things are not getting ventilated.   </p>
<p>Here are some ways of living that I hope will liberate us both:</p>
<p><strong>* We are never responsible for each other&#8217;s feelings.</strong>  You are not the &#8220;cause&#8221; of my feelings.  If I am sad or scared, it&#8217;s because of something in me, not anything you did.  Always.  I want for you to be 100% guilt-free, always and forever, no matter what happens with us.   </p>
<p>* At the same time, <strong>sharing feelings and needs can be this amazing way to connect</strong> with each other.  I have actually learned to &#8220;enjoy&#8221; other people&#8217;s pain because it&#8217;s showing what&#8217;s alive in them.  If I hear that you are in pain during our text conversation, for example, I want to go deeper with that.  I want to hear what&#8217;s going on for you, and I&#8217;d like to have a chance to clarify my intentions, too.  <strong>If you can&#8217;t find the right words, I would like to sit with you and be with you until we find the words together.</strong>  </p>
<p>As Marshall Rosenberg says, <strong>&#8220;until you learn how to enjoy pain, you can&#8217;t enjoy intimacy.&#8221;</strong></p>
<p>* <strong>My happiness does not depend on you, but I expect you to do everything in your power to honor and cherish me.</strong> I expect you to keep your promises, finish what you start, and make me and our relationship one of your top priorities.  If I am in pain, I expect you to hear me out and do whatever is in your power to bring both of us back to a good place.  </p>
<p>*  <strong>Interdependency</strong>  The more we cultivate bonds of interconnectedness, the more we will come to rely on each other.  The more we build a life together, the more painful it will be if one of us irresponsibly disconnects.  I am looking for a partner who is ready to go the distance.  I am interested in a man who is going to be there for me, day after day, night after night.  I&#8217;m looking for someone who can create miracles with me.  We care as much about each other&#8217;s well-being as we do about our own.   We are each other&#8217;s biggest fan, creating together a permanent partnership that gets better every single day.  </p>
<p>*  <strong>Reliability and accountability.</strong>  If we are considering intimacy, I want you to know that there was a time in my life when I romanticized the idea that people can come and go as they please.  I don&#8217;t feel that way anymore.  Think about what kind of world this would be if we adopted pets or took on clients and didn&#8217;t keep our commitments to them.  Pretty harsh cold world, don&#8217;t you think?  Why would anyone want to live in that kind of a world?  Relationships, in my book, are total commitments.  That means that no matter what happens between us, we are making a commitment ahead of time to stay connected until both of us feel satisfied and complete with the connection.  This requires a very deep inner strength on both of our parts.  I<strong>f either of us weakens and disconnects, the other will give instant forgiveness and reconnection when it is requested.</strong>  Please do not get involved with me at all unless you are willing to make this solemn commitment and you have the strength to honor it.  </p>
<p>* <strong>Taking space sometimes</strong> in relationships can be wonderful, and I very much honor the desire to enjoy space.  Silence can be beautiful.  At the same time, usually people look for space when they&#8217;re not feeling free to express what&#8217;s alive in them or they&#8217;re not getting enough empathy for what&#8217;s alive in them.  I want you to take space if that&#8217;s what you need, but I&#8217;m far more interested in us improving our communication skills with each other to the point that we no longer need much space.  Toward that end, I&#8217;m open to going deeper about whatever doubts you are feeling.  It&#8217;s ok to share your doubts and fears with me (if you have them). <strong>I don&#8217;t want you to hold back because you are scared of hurting me.</strong>  I trust the process of connection.  If we fully connect, everything will work itself out for both of us.  At the same time, I fully expect both of us to hang in there through the doubts.  Way too many relationships end because the two people involved do not have the courage to stay connected through darker times when the pain-body is ignited.  That&#8217;s not going to be us.  </p>
<p>Like I said above, if you can&#8217;t find the words, let&#8217;s find them together.  I will happily take all the time in the world to follow your feelings and needs until we both get clear on what your heart is really yearning for.  There is nothing more fulfilling in all the world for me than to participate in someone&#8217;s process of self-discovery.  </p>
<p>* <strong>Be honest with me.</strong>  I blog for fun and to make a contribution to other people.  I enjoy writing about my relationship experiences.  That said, my enjoyment of our time together doesn&#8217;t mean I have any expectations beyond the present moment.  (If I&#8217;m appreciating you and your sexy ways, please don&#8217;t let what I write go to your head!  I might change my mind tomorrow <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' />  And if you get cocky with me, I will definitely change my mind.)  What would be awesome is to talk honestly about whatever feelings get triggered by my writing, and have it be another way to go deeper with each other.  </p>
<p>* <strong>It&#8217;s ok if you don&#8217;t know what you want.</strong>  It&#8217;s ok to say you&#8217;re unsure or having mixed feelings.  I much prefer that to cutting off a connection for fear of disappointing someone.  It&#8217;s ok if part of you wants one thing and part of you wants something else.  It&#8217;s ok if you&#8217;re scared that today you want to be with me and maybe tomorrow you won&#8217;t.  It&#8217;s the journey of exploring all those feelings and needs that excites me.  It&#8217;s exhilarating!</p>
<p>* <strong>Please communicate</strong> and be open to the possibility that what you thought I said is not what I really meant.  It&#8217;s really easy to misunderstand each other if we don&#8217;t keep the circuit of communication going.  There&#8217;s something really amazing and freeing about going back and forth and saying, &#8220;this is what I&#8217;m hearing, it&#8217;s creating this response in me &#8212; is that really what you intended?&#8221;   </p>
<p>* <strong>I do also have a request.</strong>  I prefer we stay with our feelings and needs instead of jumping straight to strategies.  It feels way more connected to me.  So, for example, instead of me saying &#8220;I don&#8217;t want to talk tonight,&#8221; I would say &#8220;I am feeling really tired and needing rest, how are you with it if we don&#8217;t talk tonight?&#8221;  That way I am <strong>inviting communication</strong>, and if the other person is really feeling an urgency to talk, then maybe my empathy with that urgency will motivate me to connect right then and there.  </p>
<p>* <strong>For a potentially intimate relationship:</strong>  My intuition suggests that you are someone who has the capacity to go deeper with me, and that excites me.  A lot.  I&#8217;m not sure anything could be more exciting and liberating and alive than an intimate relationship with that kind of free-flowing communication.  At the same time, I&#8217;m not attached to whether you are that person.  I can feel myself flowering into that place.  If it&#8217;s you I go there with, I&#8217;d be thrilled.  If this doesn&#8217;t sound intriguing to you, I am confident someone will come along because I&#8217;m ready.  The Universe doesn&#8217;t leave voids like that unfilled.   </p>
<p>Ok, so that&#8217;s really just the tip of the iceberg of this new way of seeing relationships.  I tried to express it, however imperfectly.  What I would love now is a <strong>back-and-forth exchange</strong> to make sure we&#8217;re really &#8220;getting&#8221; each other.  My intention is to remove all pressure from you, in every way.  My intention is for you to feel free to express every aspect of yourself without guilt.  </p>
<p>My intention is for our connection to have the same organic space to grow in that I&#8217;ve already created for my own life, and that you seem to have created for yours.   </p>
<p>I am <strong>inviting you into my life</strong> because I feel a strong connection between us, but I promise you my happiness is assured no matter what you do.  My happiness comes from God.</p>
<p>Peace and love,<br />
- Erika</p>
<p>Question:  Why do I want to send this letter to everyone in my life?  </p>
<p>Answer:  &#8220;You have only one relationship, and it&#8217;s with God.&#8221;  All of your other relationships are but reflections of that One Relationship.  You may as well make it the best it can be <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> .  </p>
<p>No person left behind, or none of us make it to Heaven.</p>
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		<title>Embracing the Shadow self as a key to dating success (and other ways to throw out conventional wisdom)</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 28 Nov 2009 03:14:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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I just landed in Tahoe to spend a few days with my dad.  It&#8217;s snowing here and very beautiful, as always.  
My love of life has returned, and I give a lot of credit to the Shadow method.  Whenever we feel critical or judgmental of what somebody else is doing or has [...]]]></description>
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<p>I just landed in Tahoe to spend a few days with my dad.  It&#8217;s snowing here and very beautiful, as always.  </p>
<p>My love of life has returned, and I give a lot of credit to the Shadow method.  Whenever we feel critical or judgmental of what somebody else is doing or has done, it&#8217;s a pretty sure bet that we are actually angry at ourselves for doing the same thing.  It&#8217;s this disowned part of ourselves that we call the Shadow.  When we embrace that Shadow part of ourselves, we often feel magically better, almost instantly.</p>
<p>I realized through my own Shadow process that the real reason I was mad at <a href="http://www.entropypua.com/blog">Entropy</a> was that I was upset with myself for my own tendency to disconnect from relationships when I feel scared and uncomfortable.  Once I realized that, everything that happened no longer seemed like a big deal.  I had disconnected just as much as he had, and now seeing that, I can take full responsibility for it and feel powerful instead of powerless.  </p>
<p>All the well-meaning advice I received to &#8220;move on&#8221; and &#8220;get busy with other things&#8221; didn&#8217;t help at all.  What made me feel better was finding the root of the anger in myself and clearing it out.  </p>
<p>Another piece of well-meaning but unhelpful advice is things like &#8220;He&#8217;s a jerk.  It&#8217;s his loss.&#8221;  No, he&#8217;s not a jerk.  He&#8217;s a sweetheart.  And it&#8217;s not his loss.  It&#8217;s our loss.  </p>
<p>And here&#8217;s a confession for you:  I still love him. <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />   Hehe, that feels good to say out loud.  Rather than trying to talk myself out of loving him, I am moving (as usual) in the opposite direction of conventional wisdom.  Over the past few days, I decided to surrender to my love for him instead.  As I did that, my joy and love for life returned.  I can love him and also live my life, and that&#8217;s exactly what I intend to do.</p>
<p>Speaking of which, now that I&#8217;m dating again, I am struck by how ridiculously easy it has become.  I really can&#8217;t believe I ever made this process difficult on myself.  </p>
<p>Not so many years ago, every part of the dating process seemed difficult and frustrating.  Here are some of the many ways things have changed:</p>
<p><strong>Chivalry:</strong>  I&#8217;ve always enjoyed when men are chivalrous, but so many of the men I was meeting were not.  I didn&#8217;t know how to communicate that this was not okay with me.  Nowadays, I attract a different breed of man.  And if there&#8217;s any question whatsoever, as we&#8217;re planning the date and it seems like he expects me to meet him somewhere, I say, &#8220;You know, I&#8217;m pretty traditional when it comes to dates.  I love the restaurant you chose, but I don&#8217;t want to drive there.&#8221;  Next thing I know, he has moved into full-on chivalry mode, and I never have to say another word about it.</p>
<p><strong>During the date:</strong>  I used to worry about how he would perceive me.  As I let go of my self judgments, I stopped worrying about what other people think.  As a result, I feel relaxed and present on dates.  </p>
<p><strong>After the date: </strong> I used to wonder whether he would call, what he thought of me, etc.  Now, I barely think about it.  He virtually always calls.  If I&#8217;m too busy to get back to him, he calls again.  </p>
<p><strong>Who I date:</strong>  I used to date men older than me.  Now, I usually date men who are significantly younger (several of the guys this year were in the 20 to 22 range).  This was not intentional on my part.  Younger men started pursuing me.  I attribute it to all the <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/coaching">EFT and meditation</a>, which take years off of our vibe.  To top it off, when I go on dates with younger men, as often as not, I&#8217;m the one who gets carded.  Spiritual practices take years off of our appearance as well.  Demi Moore has become one of my new role models.  </p>
<p><strong>Marriage proposals:</strong>  So many people told me guys would not be willing to marry me if I didn&#8217;t sleep with them.  Hogwash.  The number of proposals continues to mount.  Now that I feel fully myself again, I expect there will be plenty more in the next few months.  </p>
<p>How is your dating life?  Do you really need conventional wisdom holding you back?  I can show you how to use <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/faq">Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)</a> and other spiritual practices to transcend pretty much every limiting belief you ever had.  This is You, Unplugged.  Why wait?  There are so many wonderful people out there waiting to meet the real, authentic, relaxed new you.  </p>
<p>Email me now at erika.awakening@gmail.com to <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/coaching">learn more about my coaching programs</a>.  </p>
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		<title>Happy Forgiveness-giving Day</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Nov 2009 19:26:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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I invite you to join me in dedicating this Thanksgiving to forgiving ourselves and everyone in our lives.  I am very grateful today for the healing modalities that were taught to me over the past few years, which allow grievances to evaporate so that everything feels fresh and new again.
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<p>I invite you to join me in dedicating this Thanksgiving to forgiving ourselves and everyone in our lives.  I am very grateful today for the healing modalities that were taught to me over the past few years, which allow grievances to evaporate so that everything feels fresh and new again.</p>
<p>Today I feel appreciation for everyone who has ever touched my life.  </p>
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		<title>Meditation, EFT, and other ways to clear static out of our vibe</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2009 05:08:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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One of my readers, we&#8217;ll call him Fraser, sent me this question:
hey, I remember you often talk in your blog posts about people who have &#8220;cleared the static out of their vibe&#8221;. what exactly do you mean by this, and what other methods are there to achieve this, aside from meditation and EFT?
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One of my readers, we&#8217;ll call him Fraser, sent me this question:</p>
<p><em>hey, I remember you often talk in your blog posts about people who have &#8220;cleared the static out of their vibe&#8221;. what exactly do you mean by this, and what other methods are there to achieve this, aside from meditation and EFT?</p>
<p>speaking of meditation, I often find that I often cant empty my mind, and carry on thinking for the half hour or however long I set aside. Do you have any tips for this?</em></p>
<p>I have so much to write lately that I&#8217;m going to post some of the articles here on Spiritual Seduction, while also continuing to post on the <a href="http://www.awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com">Awakening blog</a>.</p>
<p>Fraser, thanks for the question.  &#8220;Clearing the static out of our vibe&#8221; means a lot of things.  In a nutshell, it means cleaning up our belief systems so that we are seeing the beauty in everyone and in ourselves.</p>
<p>It means going within, finding any and all old traumatic memories that caused us to form &#8220;defensive&#8221; beliefs, and clearing them out.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s the difference between thinking that everyone in the world is out to &#8220;get&#8221; something from us, to realizing that everyone in the world wants to contribute to our well-being.</p>
<p>Easier said than done.  I&#8217;ll be talking about many methods that can be used in my upcoming e-book, and have a much more detailed discussion.</p>
<p>For now, I want to address the challenges of meditation.  When I first started meditating, it was just &#8220;ah&#8221; and &#8220;om.&#8221;  Then I got an Ayurvedic mantra (Primal Sound meditation).</p>
<p>Those were great, but what really revolutionized my meditation starting just over two years ago was <a href="http://www.centerpointe.com/?aid=371318">Holosync</a>.  This is very advanced biaural sound technology that creates a deep meditative state within a few minutes of putting on your headphones.  The best part is you can now meditate while sleeping or resting without focusing on meditating.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.centerpointe.com/?aid=371318">Holosync</a> works great in tandem with <a href="http://www.spiritualseduction.com/faq">Emotional Freedom Technique</a>.  The meditation brings vibe static to the surface, and then EFT or tapping helps to clear it away.  Over time, all sorts of unwanted unconscious debris is cleared out.</p>
<p>Full disclosure:  If you buy Holosync&#8217;s intro program through me by clicking on the links above, they will pay me $30.  (This is transparency in action, folks, my new marketing strategy <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' />   You will be supporting this blog by purchasing the Holosync intro.  I recommend very few products, and I was recommending this one to people with no compensation for two years before I became one of their affiliates.  </p>
<p><strong>I believe in this product because the marketing hype actually turned out to be true.</strong>  (I&#8217;m on Level 12 now, which is as high as it goes, and it has absolutely given me an inner strength that I could not conceive of before.)  Plus, it&#8217;s just so much easier than trying to clear one&#8217;s mind of thoughts.  That&#8217;s so &#8230; last century <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><a href="http://www.centerpointe.com/?aid=371318">Go here to learn more about Holosync</a></p>
<p>If you have other questions about it, feel free to let me know in the comments section here.  </p>
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		<title>See You at the 21 Convention this Weekend &#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jul 2009 17:16:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s going to be a lot of fun.
Here&#8217;s the link.
I even went shopping and got some new sexy little things to wear &#8230;
See you all soon.
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<p><a href="http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com/2009/07/meet-erika-at-21-convention-july-23-26.html">Here&#8217;s the link</a>.</p>
<p>I even went shopping and got some new sexy little things to wear &#8230;</p>
<p>See you all soon.</p>
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		<title>Harem Management Revisited &#8230; My Secret Fantasy Riff</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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Just in from a manicure and pedicure, and off soon with Player Girl, but in the meantime &#8230;
A little while back, when I was not feeling nearly so placid as I feel today, I wrote a not-so-complimentary article about harem management.
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<p>Just in from a manicure and pedicure, and off soon with Player Girl, but in the meantime &#8230;</p>
<p>A little while back, when I was not feeling nearly so placid as I feel today, I wrote a <a href="http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com/2009/05/harem-management-loselose-proposition.html">not-so-complimentary article about harem management</a>.</p>
<p>I was also recently in a heated exchange with a guy who happens to be a proponent of so-called harems where I pointed out that Rori&#8217;s website is called &#8220;Have the Relationship You Want&#8221; and NOT &#8220;Be in the Harem You Want.&#8221;  My attitude was, yeah right, just try marketing &#8220;Be in the Harem You Want&#8221; to women and see what happens.  (His version of harems, btw, is very boring.  It involves a bunch of f*ck buddies and no coherent community.  As you&#8217;ll see below, that&#8217;s not what I&#8217;m talking about.)</p>
<p>Mmmm &#8230; wait just a second now &#8230; that got me all inflamed &#8230; what&#8217;s going on &#8230; I&#8217;ve also written some on this blog about <a href="http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com/2009/02/why-integrating-shadow-self-makes-us.html">embracing the Shadow Self</a>.</p>
<p>So, well, yeah, if the word &#8220;harem&#8221; gets me that pissed off and pouty, then it&#8217;s something I need to look at &#8230; <span style="font-weight:bold;">it&#8217;s part of my Shadow</span>.</p>
<p>Teacher interjection here:  Very often, whatever it is that we resist the most is actually something we want, but we are judging ourselves for wanting it, so we push it away, try to keep it at arm&#8217;s length.  An example would be, &#8220;wow, if I wanted to be in a harem, then I wouldn&#8217;t be a &#8216;good&#8217; girl, so I refuse to admit myself that I would ever want that.&#8221;</p>
<p>The problem with the Shadow Self is that it&#8217;s not easily kept at bay.  If I&#8217;m resisting Harems, Harems will haunt me until I&#8217;ve faced the Shadow Self.</p>
<p>Integrating the Shadow Self often means doing a 180.  Meaning, whatever direction I was going in, in order to integrate the Shadow Self and become more whole, I need to do a 180 reversal.  If I thought I hated the idea of a harem, I need to look at the parts of it that attract me.</p>
<p>Am I making any sense at all?  If not, read Debbie Ford&#8217;s book, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.</p>
<p>Anyhoo, then Daria and I got to riffing on Facebook about our secret fantasies of being in a harem.  Then a few other women were brave enough to chime in, and a guy from Casanova Crew graciously offered to provide space, music, and creative consulting.  Lol <img src='http://www.spiritualseduction.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>So here&#8217;s my Shadow Side riff on <span style="font-weight:bold;">why I would actually love to be in a harem</span>.</p>
<p>First of all, let&#8217;s not forget the romance of it.  As Daria says,</p>
<p>&#8220;I&#8217;ll sign up. I have a beautiful and deep fantasy about being a dancing girl to a pharaoh who falls in love with me.&#8221;</p>
<p>Daria also said:</p>
<p>&#8220;Yeah&#8230; love Sheherazade and the 1001 nights&#8230; she was a real Goddess.&#8221;</p>
<p>And then another woman said:</p>
<p>&#8220;The harem has been my fantasy ever since I was little. Definitely feelin&#8217; some past life energy there. I have always dreamed of creating the Neo Harem. There&#8217;s something about the baths, playing instruments, lounging, royalty, enticing dance&#8230;&#8221;</p>
<p>Well, when I heard women saying those things, it got me in touch with a side of the harem that I wasn&#8217;t in touch with when reading PUA articles about &#8220;harem management.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Management,&#8221; after all, is not a very romantic word.  It&#8217;s a masculine word, and it does have a certain masculine appeal, but right now we&#8217;re talking about the Feminine version of harems.</p>
<p>We&#8217;re talking about Harem Creation.  Harem Community.  A voluptuous, sensual way of living.</p>
<p>This is what I love about imaginative 180s:</p>
<p>Once I stepped out of my little angry judgmental box, my mind kinda got set free and started meandering down fantasy paths.  Well, I could enjoy a harem.  Imagine if Daria and I were in the same harem, and we could loll about on cushions drinking ice wine.  Having manicures and pedicures and massages.  Maybe a little tantric yoga here and there, and a lovely walk in the woods, hand in hand.</p>
<p>Maybe we&#8217;d get to wear sexy, fairytale costumes, and it&#8217;d be like being at Burning Man every day of the year.  It&#8217;d be like hanging out with all my best girlfriends and then adding our favorite sexy men.  (Of course, we&#8217;d need to audition the men.  They&#8217;d need to have a LOT of physical AND emotional stamina.)</p>
<p>And so many of the things I don&#8217;t like about casual sex wouldn&#8217;t be an issue.  If it&#8217;s a community, then even if the guy or guys are sleeping with other women, well, they are still there.  They are available.  It meets my emotional needs for knowing I have a masculine presence to turn to, confide in, play with &#8230; it doesn&#8217;t feel anonymous and cold and like it could disappear at any time.  It feels like a real home.</p>
<p>I imagine little walking gardens with ponds and waterfalls, lots of beautiful women lounging about on the grass.  I imagine Daria and I being fanned and served little sandwiches and sparkling fresh water and fresh figs and champagne.  I imagine women sharing clothes and dressing each other, and everyone always having someone luscious to sleep with.</p>
<p>It actually sounds very wonderful &#8230;  I wonder if it could ever happen in real life.</p>
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		<title>The Last Hurrah? It&#8217;s High Time for a LR</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:59:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erika Awakening</dc:creator>
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A little while back, Rori gave me some advice.  She said, more or less, if you&#8217;re going to get married, the time to play around sexually is now [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>There are some developments that I&#8217;m not ready to share yet, but in the meantime &#8230; I&#8217;m kinda riffing out loud here, so bear with me please.</p>
<p>A little while back, Rori gave me some advice.  She said, more or less, if you&#8217;re going to get married, the time to play around sexually is now so you won&#8217;t feel like you&#8217;re missing out.</p>
<p>Then I kinda got to feeling inspired by Daria&#8217;s sexperimentation.</p>
<p>And I realized that I&#8217;ve actually never published a lay report (LR) on this blog, at least not one that I&#8217;m in.  Came close a couple of times, but never quite published.</p>
<p>Then today I realized that I feel bored right now reading about sex if I&#8217;m not in the story &#8230; all these threesome LRs involving other people, ho hum.  Yawn.</p>
<p>So all these currents flowing through my Universe &#8230; and then of course there&#8217;s another principle at work &#8230; whenever I go really far in one direction, say, the &#8220;I&#8217;m only interested in a committed relationship&#8221; direction, then sometimes I find it helpful to indulge the part of me that wants to go the exact opposite direction (my inner rebel).  Like somehow indulging that other side brings a balance and wholeness to the situation that&#8217;s lacking with any super strong or fixed positions.</p>
<p>Where does that lead me?  To the idea of manifesting a really amazing sexual experience.  Probably with a guy who has zero long-term potential so I won&#8217;t get caught up in anything outside of the present moment.  Something really memorable though.  Something adventurous and world-opening.  Something that feels tantric, where I get to feel intense energy exchange and all kinds of delicious mixed emotions.  Something where I get to experience my emotional edge.</p>
<p>Daria likes to put her desire out there and then say &#8220;Thank you, angels.&#8221;</p>
<p>So I&#8217;m putting my desire out there and saying &#8220;Thank you, angels.&#8221;</p>
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<p>Reposting this at Daria&#8217;s request.  I&#8217;ve been feeling moody lately about the blog.  And lonely when there aren&#8217;t comments.  But now that Daria and I are starting our own harem (and auditioning men &#8212; serious stamina required, please), it seems fitting to put this article back up.</p>
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