My ex, formerly known as Entropy PUA, also known as Mark Manson and now as Mark PostMasculine, recently wrote a rather scathing and well-trafficked article critiquing America. Many of the commentators at PostMasculine have pointed out that he should have said the “United States” instead of America. No, my friends, he used exactly the correct language. And if you want to understand the TRUTH of this article hating on America, you are going to need to do something that almost nobody on this planet is doing: look beneath the surface to what is really going on.
My ex Mark PostMasculine is not running from America. I could sit here and logically debate the points he made in his article, almost none of which apply to where I live in Northern California. But that would be an utterly useless exercise, just like the hundreds of comments the article has generated. Because the article is not about America. My ex is running from AmERIKA, and all that she represents. So you see, his unconscious mind used exactly the correct word.
How deeply do you all listen to what is said around you? Can you see the deeper unconscious meanings of everything? If not, it’s time to learn this mystical language of the soul.
Mark PostMasculine and Erika Awakening
Three and a half years ago, some of you may recall, Mark PostMasculine “seduced” Erika Awakening. However, “seduced” actually is not the correct word. What Mark PostMasculine did is defraud Erika Awakening. He committed what I call “sexual fraud,” which is where a man obtains sex from a woman with a combination of false pretenses and false promises. Mark PostMasculine offered Erika Awakening a long-term relationship, including talk about marriage, combining our businesses, and moving in together in San Francisco. After he obtained sex, he reneged on all of his promises. To this day, he still has not honored his word or been accountable in any way. He ran from true love.
He justifies this in his own mind by telling himself that “he changed his mind” and that “he owes Erika Awakening nothing.” But you see, deep down in his heart, he knows this is bullshit. Everyone has a conscience. Some people have buried their conscience, as he obviously has. And that is why Mark PostMasculine must run. He would be chartering flights to Mars if they were available, because he cannot run far enough to get away from God and his own conscience.
How many of the women that Mark PostMasculine has bedded were seduced under false pretenses? I don’t know, but I’d probably cut his number in half at least. I am aware from his own communications with me of a number of other women left angry and disgruntled by his unethical behavior, and I am aware of one woman who was so angry that she actually sought to harm him (I’m going to leave details out because they are personal).
So you wonder why Mark PostMasculine is running from America?
Let me make it very clear, that I have no intention of harming Mark PostMasculine in any way. I do not wish for him to be harmed. I wish for him to wake up and be healed and find the light and the conscience within himself. I wish for him to understand the importance of keeping his word and for him to make good with the people he has fucked over. And until he gets that healing, he has no business giving dating advice to anyone else.
It is ironic that the article begins with comparing America to an alcoholic brother, because in a 12-step program, Mark PostMasculine could probably face his addiction to foreign travel and escapism. A self-admitted avoidant, he has been running away from his problems for years (which is what people do when they drink out of control). Part of his 12-step program would be making amends with people like me whom he fucked over in his dissociated addictive state.
The problem, Mark PostMasculine, is that wherever you go, there you still are. And until you face the demons within yourself, you will NEVER have true peace. Which means you may be run run running for decades. Unless you are willing to try something different for a change.
Which, irony of ironies, is what I offer through Holistic Belief Reprogramming. I offer the cure to Mark PostMasculine’s problem. I offer the method by which he can face all of his demons and find inner peace and integrity. And that scares the shit out of him.
So he is running from Amerika. What does Amerika represent? She represents the Divine Feminine. Homeland has long been associated with the Feminine, and is a symbol of his tortured relationship with women. She also represents the root chakra and grounding into the nurturing of Mother Earth. And in this case, she represents healing and the end of exploitative ego consciousness. His return to Amerika represents the Holy Union of Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine in God. The lifting of the veil and the return to the Garden of Eden.
That’s what Mark PostMasculine is running away from. That’s what we all are running away from when we participate in compulsive hamster wheel patterns of abuse and addiction. We fight against healing, happiness, and love in countless ways. The only way we can continue to deceive ourselves is never to become still and quiet and listen to the Voice for God within us. Which is what compulsive foreign travel and hundreds of blog comments accomplishes. So much noise and busy-ness that the Voice for God is almost completely drowned out.
Well, you can run from God, but you cannot hide. God will not be mocked. Eventually karma catches up with all of us, as it did for Erika Awakening with her near-death experience in 2006 (read more here). God’s Voice will be heard, and healing will be accomplished. When this happens doesn’t really matter, because God ensures a happy outcome for all situations.
Last week, I purchased the domain http://postfeminine.com. It is not set up yet, but my intention for the new site is to provide a counterpoint of honesty and accountability to a seduction community that all too often is running with no integrity and no guiding higher values. The Voice of the Divine Feminine has been silenced, ridiculed, and suppressed for far too long in our culture. No more. She shall be heard. The running shall cease. And we will bring Heaven to Earth. Sooner than you think.
Postscript: PostFeminine is now live – check it out here at http://postfeminine.com
How long ago was that Erika?
I think you need to heal from it.
Sorry, Matt, weak males apologizing for other weak males will no longer be tolerated here. Read the article again. It applies to you as well.
I wasn’t apologizing for Mark… in fact, I think he owes you an apology, if that hasn’t happened.
But this type of reactionary post to a guy who hurt you years ago shows that he’s not the only one who needs to heal…
I’m pretty surprised you can’t see that.
I’m pretty surprised that you don’t see that this article is not about being a victim. It’s not about blame, anger, or revenge.
This article is about correcting wrongs, justice, integrity, radical honesty, and creating a better world for men and women. It’s you who needs to look within at the guilt that is prompting your comments.
I loved your article. I saw my own self pity in your comment. The feeling of despair and guilt around sexuality and money. No more. I remember buying A Course In Miracles after reading your quote and how the language of the course provoked too much for me to handle in a difficult circumstance in my life. Time to connect to reality without the course as the means of salvation. I have been feeling guilty about a lot of things, judging others, hating my mother for supressing anger, believing in seperation that did not exist between me and my father. All of this created a pattern I could not see and I confused ego with truth.
Erika, I feel really saddened by your reactive comments toward Matt. Those defensive comments don’t seem congruent with who you usually are. I love and care about you and what you have to say. I hope you are well.
Hi Renate,
You’re stepping into a conversation that has been going on for a long time, and I’m afraid you don’t have the context for the comments that I made.
You’re certainly welcome to speak your truth here, just understand I’m not going to tolerate men coming here and saying “just get over it.”
This isn’t about getting over it or not getting over it. This is about integrity, accountability, and justice, and my divine guidance tells me clearly NOT to let this go until Mark has faced this and addressed it with me fairly. So this being my blog and my home base where I like to feel understood and heard, I will be setting boundaries with the commentators.
- Erika
Do you know WHY these guys say “just get over it”? Same reason my ex has been running scared all over the globe for three years. They are TERRIFIED of their own negative feelings and facing their demons. That’s why they say that.
And do you know what that means for all of us? The same crappy relationships or non-relationships that our parents had. So I will NOT just be getting over it. I will be persevering in this until Mark PostMasculine faces this and faces his feelings and makes this right with me. The entire future of human relationships is at stake here, and I am NOT overstating this. So long as Mark PostMasculine runs instead of healing and communicating, all of us will be dealing with the extremely unfortunate consequences of the masculine pain-body.
Three years ago, I was shattered. I’m not shattered anymore. I have healed, and I am strong enough now to stand for justice until justice is delivered. And THAT is what I am going to do. Any man who attempts to stand in the way of that justice will not be commenting on this blog.
Ok, Erika – I’m now totally, officially blown away by you. I know I’ve not always been fully supportive of your positions before – but with this one – I feel like I get you. To me – you’re like a warrior, an activist like Thich Nhat Han – and you’re demanding that we all push ourselves through our pain to communicate and connect with one another.
It’s so easy to look at Course in Miracles and talk about “peace” and so, instead of being still and going within (which is not so effortless as it might sound, because being still and going within is exactly what we’re NOT comfortable doing) we dodge and run and avoid the hard stuff.
I love your holding someone you know and obviously care for and about to the fire. He made a strong statement, and I love your response. You don’t sound defensive to me at all. If this were not your line of work – healing the planet – I’d perhaps not feel the same way – but this is your JOB!!!
I don’t know you personally now, all I can respond to is your persona and your writing, which I think is brilliant, powerful, and a strong stand for truth and justice and connection as the way to heal us all.
I also think this is the way a woman pulls in a man who has the same values and passions – by fully expressing them. And the way you build an extraordinary relationship – by (as Todd Creager says) “communicating through pain.”
To me, Erika, you’ve just taken your personal experience and amplified it to a universal concept where you do not accept the status quo. It’s a real game-changer, and I cheer you on. Sincerely, Rori
Childish drama (on both your parts).
Another person (CheapSeats) running away from his or her feelings. Yep, it’s an epidemic of denial in our society, and I am here to make sure it does not continue.
Well, thank you, Rori Raye. What an extraordinary and delightful surprise to read your comment.
I feel so officially understood and seen by your comment that I am now crying. From my heart, thank you
As the understanding and truth surface, and the pain is faced and released, we ALL will be healed. It is beautiful to read your comments, Rori. Here’s to going beyond the status quo and having the healing begin universally! (And it starts with each one of us!) Bravo, Erika for standing steadfast in your power and expressing the truth! THIS will heal the planet! Onward!
One question though, Rori Raye, why only for me? Yes, this is my life’s work. However, at another level, this is every woman’s purpose.
I believe that all of us need to be holding men’s feet to the fire. Not from a position of neediness. From a position of the strength of the Divine Feminine. I don’t believe the world is going to get healed until we do.
Does that resonate with you at all?
Kill yourself. Remove the site before you do, but then, please, kill yourself.
lol I thought that was the way out at some point. unfortunately, if I “died,” I’d be even more of a problem for you because I would no longer have any time/space restrictions. so count your blessings lol
I understand this whole debate as Rori said it. And I like how Erika is using no bullshit approach and really going for it in the name of the greatest cause. Respect. The only thing I would like to add is : there is “time” for “active” masculine energy and “time” for “passive” feminine energy. They both together ensure the Movement, the Flow, Life.
Yep, Iztok, just as I wrote about in this article. http://tapsmarter.com/pamper-yourself-make-more-money
The myth of the purely masculine or feminine person is very limiting. We learn our true power when we learn we are both masculine and feminine and we begin to flow in the rhythms of God. When we learn we are Everything
O I wasn’t implying we are not both. How could we not all be masculine and feminine if we are everything. And we are everything. The Universe happens in everybody/everything. Its like a spiral from quarks to galaxies. Its the same process.
But sometimes for healing to happen you have to allow it to happen, if it makes sense.
This may not be appropriate here, but still…you look very pretty and feminine in “I don’t want people to see me naked” video
Very powerful!
And let me share a few words from Martin Luther King, Jr., which resonates quite deeply when one has already been waiting three and a half years for justice.
We know through painful experience that freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed. Frankly, I have yet to engage in a direct action campaign that was “well timed” in the view of those who have not suffered unduly from the disease of segregation. For years now I have heard the word “Wait!” It rings in the ear of every Negro with piercing familiarity. This “Wait” has almost always meant “Never.” We must come to see, with one of our distinguished jurists, that “justice too long delayed is justice denied.”
- Martin Luther King Jr.
It was reading Mark’s article that prompted this, because it was so clear that justice wasn’t coming anytime soon unless there is a major wake-up call. The seeking to “escape” through travel must stop.
I’m not mad, I’m not upset. I’m just like Rosa Parks on that bus. I’m not going to kick or scream or fight. I’m just not sitting in the back of the bus. And Mark PostMasculine can argue with me, he can ignore me, he can try to justify his actions. But I’m still not sitting in the back of the bus. And those who know me well also know that I will be standing for justice until justice is delivered. I don’t care how long it takes, because there is something much bigger at stake here.
p.s. Thanks for the sweet compliment.
For those who are not familiar with the video of which Iztok speaks, it’s here: http://tapsmarter.com/tap-along-fear-being-naked
Right after I recorded it, there appeared a naked woman being photographed on the roof next to my home recording studio. I kid you not
If anything, all the energy you are pouring into this is making you seem like a “woman scorned” and someone who still wants her ex back. As a supposed PUA, having you go ballistic over him three years later is a complement to his skills as a seducer and will be good for his business. You claim to be so enlightened but when he seems to be starting a new business or traveling, you bring up all this drama, even registering a domain to fight him. As the ancient greeks say, before seeking revenge, dig two graves.
You need to work on your ability to listen, my dear. Justice and revenge are not the same thing. Of course, oppressors throughout history have thought that those unfairly treated should “just get over it.”
Fortunately, those who carry the spirit of Rosa Parks and other such souls know better. I will stand for justice until justice is delivered.
I can see that. That there’s a difference between justice and revenge. And I know that I’ve stepped into a conversation I haven’t followed too closely, but I have observed similar situations. I know from my own life, from observing on this site, and from observing life elsewhere that the difference between justice and revenge is a thin line. It’s hard to tell sometimes. It’s been hard to tell in my own life situations, when I have been spurned by a love, if I have reacted out of revenge or out of justice. I still can’t tell about certain moments in my life what my motivations were. Self-awareness even for someone who is highly self-aware is still elusive. We can see this in well done dramatic stories where people are too close to the situation to know their own unconscious desires. I’m not even necessarily saying you don’t know what your own motives are, I’m just saying it’s sometimes difficult to tell. And if it’s difficult for individuals to know for sure why they are doing things, it’s often difficult for outsiders to know for sure why you are doing things as well. I say all this so you can see why people commenting might either mistake justice for revenge, or have a hard time being able to tell the difference. I mean it’s almost impossible to know, unless they could peer and feel directly into your heart. Then they would know the truth, but until then (which is very difficult) you can’t blame them.
Oops, I posted this on the other thread and meant it also to apply for you Renate.
Thanks for the thoughtful comment. You know what I really love and appreciate, you are really engaging and considering new perspectives, and I really, really appreciate that.
I understand some may see a desire for revenge because there is a lot of cultural conditioning in that direction. I teach God’s justice, and God’s justice is not punitive. He always gives us better than we ever even hoped for ourselves. A favorable outcome that is fair and happy for everyone.
Cheers and thanks for engaging here
I understand that you want justice and I do think based on hearing your side of the story that he owes you an apology. I don’t know his side of the story and never even heard of him until you posted all this stuff. It seems though that going about getting justice by launching an internet feud and airing old dirty laundry might do you more harm than good. That was the point of my original post. All he has to do is remain silent and keep doing what he’s been doing on his site (which by the way, you’re probably helping generate some traffic for) and he looks like the more evolved person, simply because he appears to have moved on while you haven’t. If you truly forgive those that have wronged you, then it will free you from having to seek justice. Rosa Parks as far as I know, didn’t hold grudges against specific people, but rather an ideology held by many.
Again, you are not listening. This is not a feud.
And if the people who stood strong against segregation had not done exactly what I am doing, we’d still have segregation.
Look deeper, my friend. You also are avoiding your feelings, and it doesn’t work as a life strategy.
“Like a boil that can never be cured so long as it is covered up but must be opened with all its ugliness to the natural medicines of air and light, injustice must be exposed, with all the tension its exposure creates, to the light of human conscience and the air of national opinion before it can be cured.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
“I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen’s Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to ‘order’ than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: ‘I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action’; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a ‘more convenient season.’ Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Ok, I’m really curious what would be an example of a just outcome here? Like how is this not the equivalent of keying his car.
It’s a good question. The perfect and fair and happy outcome for the situation will arise out of connection. Right now all I ask is a face-to-face conversation with full addressing of all issues and no avoiding. I have faith that the perfect outcome arises out of that reconnection.
When Rosa Parks refused to give up her seat, she didn’t key the bus. She didn’t knife the upholstery. She simply refused to sit in the back of the bus. And it was because of the poignant power of her non-violent yet assertive act that an entire nation was mobilized. You underestimate me if you think I would resort to any form of destruction. I am far more powerful than that.
The face to face reconnecting and fully addressing the issues in a non-violent manner, without avoidance……..These are the “keys” to the kingdom!!! Bravo!! I trust and have faith that this occurs for the highest good of all………..
Erika, why do you feel that Mark owes you anything, including face to face conversation about something that happened 3 years ago? Newsflash, it is not up to you to control whether Mark feels accountable for this or not. It is not up to you whether he faces his negative feelings. Have you considered the possibility that he won’t ever do this? 3 years have passed already, what if you take this to the grave? So much for holistic releasing.
The mere fact that you assume he is out there travelling to avoid “Amerika” within your paradigm on the Divine feminine, are delusions of grandeur. Have you considered it might have nothing to do with you at all, and you are projecting what you believe to be “your” truth on him?
Instead of addressing this issue directly, and not within the parameters of your perception about the holy union of the divine masculine and feminine, you divert criticisms with the mirror argument: “look into your own feelings and check x, y, z of what I am talking about, which is the cause for making relationships fail in the world”.
I found your “Amerika” allusion completely offputting and the fact you think you are doing the world a favour by righting what this man did to you, is utterly childish. You teach holistic releasing, yet you get angry when others tell you to let this go. Talk about “irony of ironies”.
The issue is not resolved for either party until a miracle has replaced the grievance. “Letting something go” when the miracle has not yet occurred does not solve anything, and ensures the problem will continue to recur indefinitely. I will stand for that healing until the miracle happens.
It’s not unlike how people say we “should” just “accept” sickness, suffering, and death. I will never accept those things. I will stand for justice until justice is delivered, which in those cases means the end of sickness, suffering, and death, and indeed we will raise the dead. When those miracles have replaced all grievances, then our job is done. Until then, “letting go,” “getting over it,” and accepting the unacceptable is just denial, pure and simple.
p.s. He does owe me something. He owes me what he offered me and never delivered. Just because your check bounces doesn’t mean you don’t still need to follow through on your payment. Justice is justice, and it’s amazing that anyone could pretend otherwise in this situation.
hmm…interesting analogy. So you’re saying that his promises were like writing a check to purchase sex and love from you; and after you delivered the service his check bounced. So to make it right, he will need to get into a relationship with you now?
I am actually saying what is in my heart, and what has been in my heart for more than three years now. The principles are very simple. The only way we have trust on this planet is if people keep their word. I wrote more about agreements here: http://spiritualseduction.com/the-importance-of-agreements.
When we break our word, we do deep injustice to ourselves and others. Especially when we won’t even have a respectful conversation about it to restore respect and integrity to the situation. That is why, at the very least, a respectful conversation is needed. Mark had no trouble communicating with me almost every day for six months when he wanted sex from me. So he can communicate now as well, instead of continuing to run and avoid. It’s time for us to bring completion to this situation by facing it directly.
Also remember that minds are joined. What one wants the other also wants in truth, the only trick to it is making the unconscious conscious. But that is a whole other discussion.
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Why can’t be friends, why can’t we be friends? Why can’t weeee be frieeeends?!
Maybe you just need to remember what it’s like to be put in the friend zone. He’s not calling cuz he doesn’t want to hurt you. Like girls do to most guys they aren’t interested. Hmm, maybe getting over the man who is causing you all these negative feelings can go “run around the world” because that’s the little boy he is. Maybe you should just move on to what’s better. You know that 6’4, tall dark and handsome man is just waiting for you. So go get him and quit this malarky. Harky malarky. It’s okay to get hurt, just make sure healing is a part of it. All the love!
PS – I CAN GO TO CAFE GRATITUDE AGAIN WITH YOU IF YOU WANT – REMEMBER THAT? HIGH FREQUENCIES? okay good
Seduction = dishonesty! Being authentic is something that a seducer have to avoid! You need a mask to seduce and false promises!
Those are a little part of the BS in the seduction world. How much time I spent with other people laughing to those girls that say:” You have to be yourself!”
Be myself…( the hidden limiting belief is:” Girls will want money and not MYSELF!”)
And now be myself seem the most powerful and radically new idea of all this seduction world!
The Radical honesty of this article is really refreshing!
Thank you Erika!
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Maybe it’s not Mark who needs to face or address anything. It’s you. He doesn’t need to change, be accountable and justify anything, so that you can feel better. The change needs to happen in you…Not him.
Have you considered just forgiving him, thanking him for the lessons that he has taught you, then moving on with your life and focusing on attracting people with a little bit more integrity?
I’m wondering too why don’t you just pick up the phone and call him and sort it out between the two of you. Why air out all of your dirty laundry?
I’m wondering why you think you know enough about this situation to be giving me advice.
I suppose that’s what you think Rosa Parks should have done, too, huh? Move to the back of the bus and thank the “white people” for teaching her a lesson? Sorry, sister, that’s not how I roll. Read the article. I will be standing for justice until justice is delivered. http://postfeminine.com/twelve-reasons-why-avoidance-just-getting-over-it-and-moving-on-is-a-stupid-thing-to-do/
I’m not suggesting avoidance by any means. You would only be hurting yourself. I’m suggesting that you need not even meet him in the physical to heal that relationship.
Seems like he refuses to meet with you, the same way Rosa Parks wouldn’t move to the back of the bus..
I appreciate that more circumspect comment. Have you considered asking questions before making assumptions? For example, are you aware that I attempted to resolve this privately with Mark for three years, that he put my emails in the spam folder, hung up the phone on me, never responded to my (multiple) offers to pay for a mediator, and has until recently not cooperated in any way with getting this healed?