Hey everyone,
I’ve been recuperating from surgery and haven’t felt up to posting, but I wanted to start this Vegas Seduction series of articles now, which seems appropriate on the eve of the 21 Convention (July 21-25 in Orlando – the world’s most amazing men’s success convention) … if you’re not signed up yet, go here now …
Those who know me from the past couple of years of blog posting know that I’m one of the most difficult women on the planet to seduce. Pulling me out of a venue where I’m partying with my friends is well nigh impossible. Why? Because unless you are in the top one percent of men who know what they are doing with women, I know I’ll have more fun staying put in the club or bar with my friends than I will going somewhere with a guy I just met …
Nothing personal, that’s just the flat-out truth.
If you’re going to have any chance of pulling me, it will be by showing me you are an expert when it comes to seduction and women … so that I get carried away by the moment, and feel MORE intrigued by the prospect of getting to know you better in private than I do about the prospect of spending a fun evening with my friends.
This rarely happens.
Most guys are too timid to approach me at all. And the few guys who can get up the courage to say hello rarely have the powerfully congruent intention and non-verbal fundamentals required to take that initial “hello” all the way to the bedroom … much less do so within the span of an hour.
Much to my surprise, on my last night in Vegas, with my plane flight just hours away, one of these rare men found me. So I want to share with you, segment by segment, why he was so successful where nearly every other guy has failed …
Part 1 – The Approach
This all happened when I was least expecting it. A group of about 30 of us were at Pure, a Vegas club. I had already been there for an hour or more, and because I had a plane flight early in the morning, I planned to hang out a little longer and then go back to our hotel. It had already been a long night of watching dozens of men stand around not approaching anybody, and I was feeling a bit “done” with all of it. I was absorbed in conversation with some of the female coaches, minding my own business (as always 
), when I noticed a guy (we will call him Vegas Guy) making eyes at me …
All right … the first thing he did right was that initial eye contact. So much of this is non-verbal, truly it is a “vibe” thing, and the only way most men are going to be able to pull it off is to do a tremendous amount of inner game work, but I’ll describe it as best I can.
His eyes said very clearly and decisively: “I want you.” His eyes were assertive. I looked over, then looked away, and he was persistent about it.
His eyes said: “I want you and I’m going to have you.”
He was smiling, too. He looked mischievous and playful.
Now, immediately, I felt turned on … most women love being desired. I looooove feeling desired by a confident, unapologetic man.
And for most women – me being no exception – getting turned on like that triggers us to put up our defenses a little bit. I noticed a pretty blonde girl hanging all over him, and I immediately assumed it was his girlfriend, and that he was making eyes at other women anyway. (Nice benefit of the doubt, huh? )
So I turned to my girlfriend and said, “That guy is totally making eyes at me, but it looks like he has a girlfriend. I’m so not into that. As far as I’m concerned, he doesn’t even exist.”
And I meant it. I immediately started ignoring him and even momentarily forgot all about him, as I had mentally written him off as “taken.” I was fully immersed back in conversation with the girls when I must have felt a nudge behind me.
I turned around, and there were his eyes again, but this time that assertiveness was right in my face. Somehow he had spanned the 15 feet between us without me even noticing what was happening. His presence was assertive, but not aggressive. Friendly in a powerful, dominant way. This was not a “hey, I’m Bob,” and holding out a limp handshake from three feet away kind of introduction. This was a “I’m in your space now, I want you, what are you going to do about it?” kind of introduction.
(As DJ Fuji would say, lol, he had definitely “locked in.” 
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I don’t remember what he said at the outset. Probably something as simple as “hi, how are you?” It doesn’t really matter, because his eyes were doing all the talking. Powerful, dominant, sexual talking.
Within the first few minutes, we established that he did not have a girlfriend (the blonde was someone who latched onto him in the line to get into the club), that he had noticed me because I was drinking wine in a club and he liked my eyes, and pretty much everything else was non-verbal. Pure sexual chemistry. …
(LOL, he just texted me: “Hey beautiful how was your day?” as I finished that last sentence … funny synchronicity, huh?)
Anyway, here’s a wrap-up of what he did right on the initial approach: direct, assertive, fast, decisive, simple, perfect non-verbals, clearly knew what he wanted and wasn’t afraid to go after it (i.e., ultra-confident) …
Stay tuned for Part 2, how he handled my male friends and how he isolated me …
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Raw honesty is the only way to go! Thank you for sharing. I love to hear about this type of approach from a female perspective.
Very nice Erika! the strength of confidence is a hard one for some men to master, but it is none the less worth every honesty in that moment..
Erika ,don’t wait too long giving the sequel to this tale.
The blonde hanging all over him sounds a bit strange.
I had a lady approach me once , in a club , with an identical line about a guy I saw earlier drapped all over her. ( ie: just to get in )
Eye contact ….. I’m convinced of it’s power .
What happens in Vegas… sometimes ends up here
Sounds like some nice chemistry. I agree with the above comment; nice to hear a female perspective (especially from a woman who values the community perspective). Thanks 4 sharing.
Thank You for that Erika, its good to hear a woman speak so openly about things like this. Keep it up and I will be offering you a date too!
I’m hooked!! Can you write a book about the masculine energy that awakens women the way your vegas guy did…?
How do you watch the 7-day video course? I just signed up and I can’t find it on this site.
Most women these days are too concerned about stalkers and are tired of being stared at so I am having doubts about the story, sounds like a sales job, at least thats my experience. The oldlines don;t work anymore. Most women are too shallow and into themselves to sense anything anyways, just my opinion. Mike
Welcome, Mike … If you don’t mind me saying, I hear a lot of fear and judgment in your comment and not much openness to people …
Welcome, K. The 7-day course is no longer available. If there is enough demand to cover the costs, it may be turned into a product at some point.
hi there,
just stumbled onto ur site via facebook – dont ask, not really sure how myself! – and after reading this article, i want to just point out that what you are describing is simply the caveman syndrome. every woman in truth wants a strong thoroughly masculine man (v. few and far between in this day and age) to be dominant and just “claim” her… most women may not admit it but that is their secret truth…a man who does not beat around the bush, who simply with his eyes can make her feel incredibly desirable and sexy, who does not bother with polite delay tactics and waste of time. well, guess what? even when you find that man, or he finds you, and its the most thrilling roller coaster of a ride you could possibly imagine, even that doesnt guarantee any happiness in the end. because once the adrenalin isnt pumping so much, once the high dissipates and you come back down on terra firma, the reality can tear your life apart. because no matter how unbelievably manly and amazing he is, he also definitely knows the impact he has on women, and his ego will get in the way. no man is perfect, so if mr perfect comes along, guaranteed his achilles heel will come with him, and it may be too much to handle. what you are describing as your vegas incident is i can guarantee NOTHING to what happened to me two years ago, when mr perfect found me. for the first time in 33 years i fell in love, and i fell HARD. it was like God looked into my heart, soul and mind, pulled out all the info on the kind of man i wanted to spend my whole life with, and then constructed him ingredient for ingredient as i imagined him, dreamt him. but fairy tales have a way of turning into horror stories, and mr. perfect was able to take every single thing that i valued from me, and then set fire to my life and walk away. i know that i am still in love with him, and there is not one hour of my life when i dont think about him. i know i will never get over him, and the burden of my memories and my heartache is something that i will have to carry with me till my dying day. that burden which has plagued not just me but everyone around me because when we are hurting, all the people who care about us are not untouched by the pain. the damage he did has reverberated far and wide and has broken me as a person. i try and be strong and move on and live, but the magic of this life, this world is gone. so whats my point? meeting mr perfect is not always a good thing. women should look beyond the animal magnetism and try and see the guy who may be fumbling, who may not be as smooth and dominant, but may have a kinder heart, a more compassionate soul, and a more tolerant and patient attitude – perhaps instead of dismissing him immediately give him a chance, and look at your own shortcomings as well while you are at it. as for your own personal experience, all i can say, i hope you never go through what ive been through, and i hope its happily ever after for u.
Hi S,
Thank you for your comment … I appreciate you bringing your heartfelt experience here … it sounds like you have been through a great deal of pain.
On the other hand, I feel confident you did not come here for me to give sympathy, because I don’t do that. I’d rather give you something that would actually help.
So if you’re open to some provocative questions, I am curious how much turnaround work you’ve done on this situation.
I ask because I’ve had my own share of heartbreaks, and what has worked to heal them, especially when I’m playing victim, is to turn the whole thing around, and recognize the places in my life where I am DOING what I’m accusing the other person of doing. (Shadow work)
If I’m playing victim, it probably means I’m not taking accountability somewhere in my life …
One thing I know FOR SURE: you are NOT broken as a person. You are still powerful, and you can step back into your power NOW.
It only takes an instant. It’s your choice.
I’d love to see you back here again
Love,
Erika
Beautiful
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